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Old 10-20-2006, 08:42 PM   #1
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My friend lies and makes up stories all the time

My friend lies and makes up stories all the time. I feel bad for her because it's so transparent. People often make fun of her because her lies are so obvious. I've even confronted her about it once... she didn't deny it. She just got upset and it hasn't been the same between us since. Well, lately, I've been hanging out with her again... and again, the same lies. She likes to make up stories about her day about random things that happen to her. Thing is, she sometimes forgets who she tells what, and uses the same story the next week. Also, we've caught her in obvious lies that she can't get out of, but we don't call her out on it. She lies about school too, which I haven't asked her much about. For all we know, she could be dropped out but pretending to still be in school (I know a friend's friend who did that).

Anyway, I want to help her, I feel horrible. I know its her childhood and upbringing that kinda screwed up her mind. Her father and brother passed away almost a year apart from each other, that was a big hit to her. She changed personalities, and became a different person (this was in high school, she's now 23). She's a pretty girl, and she's not dumb. Definitely could make something of herself.. but if she keeps up the lies, she may be headed toward a bad road. I want to her straighten up before it's too late. Do you guys have any suggestions on what I should do? I mean, I could tell her to go see a psychiatrist, but I don't know if she'd listen.

Oh yeah, is there a name for this personality disorder? Thanks in advance guys

 
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Old 10-21-2006, 07:12 AM   #2
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Re: My friend lies and makes up stories all the time

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Originally Posted by dunkee8
Anyway, I want to help her, I feel horrible. I know its her childhood and upbringing that kinda screwed up her mind. Her father and brother passed away almost a year apart from each other, that was a big hit to her. She changed personalities, and became a different person (this was in high school, she's now 23). She's a pretty girl, and she's not dumb. Definitely could make something of herself.. but if she keeps up the lies, she may be headed toward a bad road. I want to her straighten up before it's too late.
Tell her the above that you just told us. Start there.

 
Old 10-23-2006, 10:48 PM   #3
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Re: My friend lies and makes up stories all the time

easier said than done.. i already tried it one time and it backfired. she still lies, and we have drifted apart once, i don't want it to happen again.

 
Old 11-12-2006, 08:40 AM   #4
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Re: My friend lies and makes up stories all the time

I know how you feel. One of my best friends is a chronic liar. I have been friends with him for about 20 years. He has always been like this, so I know no different with him. I used to call him on all his BS but, now I just don't even waste my time. He gets offended and it usually starts a fight. I just have never understood why he has to lie about so many things and make up so much crap. It used to be a lot worse when we were in school together. Now I don't see him as much and we both have other groups of friends and go to different colleges. I can guarantee you that he lies and makes up stories with all his other friends. Some of his stories are so incredibly ridiculous i can't stand it. It is hard not to just start laughing my @$$ off right in front of him as he is feeding me his bull. He is also the KING of exagerrating, which is awful too.

I just take every thing that comes out of his mouth with a grain of salt. I am really cautious about what he says and am always questioning in my mind whether it is true or not... That sounds awful but that is how its always been... I myself have never been a liar or had to make up stories to try to get people to like me. I wish my friend could just stop, he looks so stupid sometimes because everyone is onto him. I just don't understand why he does it. I am sure its some deeply rooted issue that I can't even begin to understand, so I do feel bad about that. I just have a hard time putting up with it.

Anyways, no words of advice really, just someone who can relate to you. Good luck in however you handle the situation.

-Sam

 
Old 11-12-2006, 11:13 AM   #5
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Re: My friend lies and makes up stories all the time

My best friend was a chronic liar too. But she didn't lie about everyday things, her lies were about serious things that continued for months and months. She even got people to back up her lies or pretended she was another person who had found a "girl passed out and covered in blood" in the road.

I repeatedly forgave her but she lied again recently. This time about her grandparents both dying. Her grandmother died from cancer and her grandfather killed himself. She also lied about me to a male friend who she said she couldn't stand and hated his guts and in reality she was seeing him for 2 months and making sure he didn't contact me. So I finished with her for good. I cant put up with her lies and deceit anymore because its not the way a friendship should be. I hope you can sort your friend out.

 
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