Some just dont get it! - Mental Health Message Board

pucca_chick · 12-19-2006, 10:34 AM

i was reading a post earlier and it set me of into a rage as it reminded me of what happened. it really ****es me off when you say 'im off work cos of depression', and silence befalls everyone around you and they kind of give eachother that awkward stare! the same goes for trying to explain to some people thats why im behind on everything i do, that why i dont want to go out some days, thats why i forgot to call you and so on.

i recnetly quit work because theres just too much right now, ive taken another dip, im behind on coursewoek and about to fail, im about to start therapy and im in a big self harming rut.the manager gave me a really frustrated look and despite the fact i told her it was all personal she still asked"but.....why??" with a really annoyed look. also as im only 18 i also have to deal with stupid lectures from, every adult under the sun(no offense) about how'in their day they worked 24/7', and how no one ever complained you just did it back then.

it really gets me down and magnifies everything. you cannot win. i spend all my time trying to pick myself up off the floor, get up and do what little i actually manage to do and appear so happy to everyone-yet im miserable. if they knew theyd worry alot,so thats why i try for them. yet the minute you admit the probelm and stumble a bit or take of the mask people start looking at you like your weak and stupid for not working.

i hide alot, some just dont get it. it infuriates me. they think depression is just a little blue. sometimes if i had the guts id love to scream at them "NO! im not working today because i went out last night, got totally wasted, relived sexual molestation, lay on the toilet floor for 2 hours while attempting to vomit, came home and hacked myself with a razor balde and scalpal. slept for 2 hours, woke up and wanted to be dead so i cut some more!!!!!!! and now i cant move!"

some people have a really warped idea of mental illness, they think its all straighforward, you go to the doc, you get some meds(which alot of people then tell you is weak), then you just get better therfore there should be no reason why you cannot perform miracles!

has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses. xox

Sannah · 12-20-2006, 07:16 AM

Pucca chick, before I recovered from my anxiety I learned that I had to ignore EVERYONE'S opinion. Now, after recovering from my anxiety I don't need anyone's opinion usually. I don't think that you are weak or stupid. I think that you are trying your very best and that you are a very strong person for dealing with what you have had to deal with. Most people are not capable of putting themselves in another's position to really understand what that person is dealing with. Most people do not take the time to really understand what another person is experiencing. They only know their own situation and they judge another's situation from their own experience only. Most other's opinions are worth 1 cent. Please ignore their responses. They really do not understand.

angrywarrior · 01-13-2007, 04:18 AM

When I was 18 I did similar things: partied, got drunk out of my mind, flunked out of college... on purpose. I was extremely depressed and didn't know it, I lost my will to live (however, I never considered suicide), and floated around like I hardly existed or cared about a dam thing.

My parents thought I was doing drugs. Ok, maybe I did experiment but never abused and only tried things once or twice. They made me goto the doctors. I refused medication because I believed it was just a scapegoat and did not confront the issue. Went to a psychiatrist also, didn't help what-so-ever.

It really irritated me when some people tried to advise me. But I now realize that some people were just trying to help or were worried. Things do get better and I'm a stronger person because of what I had to go through. Life can still suck at times, but you do your best to get by.

isitme · 01-14-2007, 06:07 AM

'has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses"

I've come across this attitude and yes, it makes you feel worse. I've be told to snap out of it, I'm not really depressed, just lazy and allsorts else too.
My attitude now - SOD 'EM ALL.

If they can't support me, their views are not valid in the slightest.

thecameraeye · 01-16-2007, 03:05 PM

people in general are quite retarded.

I've found that I hate about 80% of the human race. For what reason? I dunno. Maybe because they're human.

I've become this way because when you are depressed you are in your own state of mind. No one is willing to reach out and help you because that's how everyone is. If you finally do get someone to reach out and help you, it's after several people that have already taken a giant crap on you and you really don't care for their help. Sometimes you welcome it but with a very hesitant approach.

People suck. Believe me.