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Old 03-31-2007, 03:59 PM   #1
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Unhappy False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

Has anyone had their autistic child falsly accuse people of sexual abuse??? My sister accused a janitor of sexual abuse in Virginia . Gave a very detailed account (but she is great at adding detail to stories) Was having terrible behaviors. My parents have been divorced for a few years. My sister decided she wanted to live in Illinois with my father. She moved to illinois. A few weeks after starting school she began accusing the janitor in illinois of sexual abuse again giving great detail. My step-mother decided she was going to push answers out of sis. Step mother does not like my mother at all. Step mother was drawing social security for sis. My mother decided to take sis back to Virginia. Step mother became upset due to loosing extra income. Now my sis is accusing step father of sexual abuse. This man was never left alone with sis. Could an autistic child be coached into repeating stories??? Please help. I'm afraid social service people won't understand how autistic children's minds work. Step father could be sent to prison on false claim of autistic child.

 
Old 03-31-2007, 05:17 PM   #2
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

It may not be coaching--it could just be plain deception.

Check out whether that first account--the janitor--might have been true. If she experienced it once, she might falsify the account the second time. The extreme detail seems to suggest that she either experienced it, read about it, or was taught to say these things.

Is she using the same phrases whenever she talks about it? She may be repeating what she heard...

Autistic people ARE capable of deception... but we are also rather vulnerable to abuse and exploitation. So it's important you rule out the possibility of actual abuse or the possibility of someone 'putting her up to it' (easier to do with a naive autistic than with a typical person); but it may be her own idea. If it is her own idea, it is important to find out where she learned about sexual abuse.

Question: Who benefits from her allegations? Follow that trail, and it may lead you either to her (in the case of deception) or to someone else (in the case of coaching).

Good luck--I hope, for your sister's sake, that she was never abused.

 
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Old 04-01-2007, 04:51 AM   #3
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

My sis is 13yrs old. She had started her period in this time frame. I know she was very confused and bothered by this new change in her body. She would often try to rub her hair off. She didn't like the new changes. So she was preoccupied with puberty. My step-mother couldn't understand these new behaviors. Also she was taught sex education at her school which has its pros and cons. She knew about sex but could her brain put all the education togather like a normal child? She had also caught my younger brother with his girlfriends. My brother is slow. He didn't understand that autistic children often repeat what they saw. Monkey see Monkey do.

Also my step-mother and father are money hungry people. They were drawing 600 dollars a month social security for her. All these allegations didn't start until they found out that my mother was going to take my sister back. She has had full custody of her since the divorce. My mother can't draw SSI for her So there is no monetary benefit for her. But on my step-mother and father, they stand to lose 600 dollars. How could anyone put a mentally challenged child up to this. I feel this is abuse to my sister. Please help an innocent man could be put in prison one the words of a nieve manipulated special child.

 
Old 04-02-2007, 01:03 AM   #4
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

Your sister seems to be verbal enough to have a decent discussion with... Have you tried talking to her about who first "informed" her about what had "happened" to her? If so, you may be able to find out who coached her, if she was coached.

Can she write? Is her written communication better than her speech? It might help to have her write down what happened, et cetera.

It is important to consider the possibility that she is telling the truth, however. She may be pointing to the wrong person--might someone other than her stepfather have done this?

Have you asked the teachers for a copy of their sex ed curriculum? See if you can match that with what she's saying--what did they teach her about abuse, about the acts she is recounting? What, exactly, did she see her brother do?

Regarding autism and sex ed: I have Asperger Syndrome, which is high-functioning autism without language delay; so my brain may have some similarities to your sister's. I learned about sex at the age of nine, when I read my mom's "women's health" books. Since then I have learned about the mechanics of sex in most of its forms, though I am still a virgin. Generally, my attitude towards sex is the same as towards other bodily functions... I attach very little significance to it, have little desire to have sex, and identify as asexual. I have been known to make casual comments about sex, only to find out that what I said was taboo and embarassing to those around me.

Social expectations are not always clear to me, and they may not be clear to your sister. Does she tell stories about other things which did not happen? If she does, this may be yet another story. How do you usually ask whether something is a story or really happened? Can you use this method to communicate with her?

Many autistic people, unlike me, do want to have sex, of course; your sister, at the brink of puberty, may be experiencing such desires. If she tells stories about things she wishes would happen, then she might do so if she wishes she could have sex. She may not have taboos about incest in the same way most people do; autism often stands in the way of becoming a member of the dominant culture, so if she does not have these taboos, it may seem natural that, if she wants to tell a story about sex, she picks one of the most significant males in her life--her stepfather.

Did your sister come up to you and tell her story about sexual abuse; or did your stepmother and father initiate this discussion?...

It might be best to get an uninvolved specialist to talk to your sister. This way she has no emotional connections to the person, and is more likely not to be influenced by expectations. It may take a while for communication to be established between her and a new person, though.

 
Old 04-02-2007, 06:57 AM   #5
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

My sister is a very creative story teller. Her verbal skills are better than her written skills. She can make up stories with such detail that you would believe anything she said if you didn't know her.

As for seeing things from my brother and his girlfriend. I know she saw them kissing and touching each other. She is good at adding detail to situations.

My step-mother was the first to question my sister, and she would never question her in front of me. I know my father and step-mother would say awful things in front of my sister about our mother and step-father. My sister was often confused about why she had to live with her father for a while.

My sister is very preoccupied with sex. She always says she wants to have babies. So I know she is interested in sex.

My father and step-mother are money hungry people. My father has cheated his other children including me out of money. He even tried to cheat on his tax return but got caught. Their whole motive to this is all about money. The stories didn't start until they found out they would not recieve my sisters social security anymore. That is sad. They don't care about my sister. She wants to go back to live with my mother. All they are worried about is that money. My father gave full custody in the divorce to my mother. He didn't want the responsibility of my sister. Only when he found he could make money off of her is when he wanted to keep her. And he don't watch her my step-mother does. This is sad.

I hope a therapist can sort through all the lies that my sis has been taught and find the truth. My sister keeps saying I'm sorry I lied about my step-father now. But the damage has already been done. And most social workers are not experienced with the mind of autistic children.

Thank you for your advice. I see that you understand this disorder. You seem be a very intelligent person. You have been able to work through disability to have a normal life. You have really encouraged me to work with my sis so that maybe one day she can function on her own. Thank you. Now I know ther is hope for her

 
Old 04-03-2007, 04:21 PM   #6
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

Got some good news today. Social services does believe my sis can make up detailed stories. Unintentional of course. But My family has a ray of hope.

It's almost over.

 
Old 04-08-2007, 06:35 PM   #7
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

sis is going to pschiatrist thurs. hope they see the imagination hiding inside this child. some of the children have wonderful imaginations. That is considered a gift to me.

 
Old 04-09-2007, 03:58 PM   #8
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

This has been an interesting post to follow. Please keep us posted. Be sure to let us know how the appt. goes Thurdsay.

 
Old 05-25-2007, 12:04 PM   #9
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Re: False sexual abuse claims by autistic child

Great news case closed. UNFOUNDED.

 
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