daughter gets mad - Mental Health Message Board

buggymama · 03-25-2008, 08:25 PM

When my daughter is at fault for something-and it gets pointed out to her- she immediately gets mad at everyone around and starts finding reasons why she should not be at fault for her mistake. She does not take criticism very well. How can I help her handle this "part of life", and to be able to accept her shortcomings without being mad at everyone else about them?

Its hard raising teenagers!

Sannah · 03-26-2008, 08:44 AM

I think that people who cannot take constructive criticism don't feel very good about themselves. If you feel like a strong person then these "little" things cannot knock you down. If you feel weak, these small things have great power. If she is trying to pass the blame off to others it sounds like there could be a component of not taking responsibility for her actions.

buggymama · 03-26-2008, 08:57 AM

Yes, she doesn't want to take responsibility, because she doesn't want to be wrong, she wants to be right about everything. How can I help her build her self esteem to handle these problems? How can I make her realize she is not right about everything aside from just saying it to her. I don't want to sound harpy and her stop listening to me, I need some other plan of action. And thank you for your response.

Sannah · 03-26-2008, 09:00 AM

By the way, hi neighbor! She must think that being wrong means something bad? Have you two talked about this in detail not in the heat of the moment?

nanaxiu · 03-27-2008, 05:58 AM

do the 'sandwitch' method. it works all the time. tell your daughter the good stuff about her, the possitive stuff she made. then tell her what things she should've done right or how she can make things better. then tell her again to keep up the things she's doing right.

indeed it feels bad to be pointed out by everyone. tendency is to retaliate and deny everything, especially for teenagers...

best of luck. hope you and your daughter will get along.