please help..i just dont know what i can do - Mental Health Message Board

bleach111 · 04-20-2008, 04:29 PM

a friend of mine has been going through a lot of stress and he is the type to believe that things will never change or get better (even on a good day)...some time last year he was diagnosed with hpv, it was something his girlfriend of 5 years had given him, she slept with someone else after they had broken up, and passed it on to him after they got back together...i dont know if this is the only thing that happened but now hes completely withdrawn, he wont see his family friends, absolutely no one..he says he cant care, that he just cant if he tried, he got into a car accident at 90 mph and narrowly missed a truck he could have died, but "he laughed but felt nothing", he says he hates people, he will never date again and that he will live by himself for the rest of his life...and i really do believe he will...is it even possible to help him without professional help..i dont think hell go..i know hes says and feels all these things..but hes still human and i know hes in there somewhere..im so afraid hes going to kill himself just because of carelessnes and recklessness not attempted suicide..i just feel like i have to intervene

trg247 · 04-21-2008, 01:23 PM

Unless the person recognizes they have a problem and are willing to try and get better then there is not alot that can be done. Just try and keep the doors of communication open and hopefully when he is ready he will open up. The problem when trying to push someone to get help is that it may make them close up completely and even sever the relationship so it can be pretty risky.

take care
trg247

shorebird · 04-22-2008, 11:55 AM

I agree with trg. The best thing you can do is keep communicating with him and try and advise him when you get an opening. Hopefully he'll eventually realize (with your help) that he can get assistance and feel better, but right now he's his own worst enemy as the sickness of anxiety and depression is causing him to feel this way but he thinks it is just the way he is. I think he will eventually need some meds and CBT but he has to realize he needs help first so maybe you can edge him closer to that point as a good friend. Good luck!