jeffo2448

Hello, I'm 21 years old. I have an older brother who recently graduated college and is moved out and I have a brother who is a year younger than me. I go to college as well, but I live home in the summer with parents. Same with younger brother. Anyway, I've noticed my father becoming "progressively strange" for the past five years or so. He's still married to my mother, he's 50 years old, but it seems like his social life has vanished. We have a new house roughly ten minutes away from where we used to live (where I grew up) so we haven't moved far. Moving on, I've noticed my father talks to himself a lot, and I mean ALOT. He'll usually always be talking about negative situations, mainly things that have occurred in the past... things that have happened up to ten years ago and he still will talk about these events like they bother him today. For example, he'll ramble on about how my step uncle "busted his balls" at the dinner table. This was merely poking fun, a joke. My dad seems to take everything as an insult and bottle up his emotions. He'll ponder over and over and bicker and argue to himself about these types of things. He'll downtalk my family if they've "insulted" or even made comments about him. He also had a rough past while he was at his old job. This was a major problem in my father's life. He always accused his co workers of undermining him, insulting him, whatever it may be.

In October of this past year, he "kicked" out my mom for accusing of her cheating. He randomly brought up things that "may" have happened in college. He also accused her of cheating with a guy up the street, a neighbor whom I'm never seen. My mother told my whole family, who tried to get him psychiatric help. He refused, believed nothing was wrong with him. Since then, my mother is back, but he still talks to himself. He has a coffee (1/2 decaf) and cigarette addiction. He'll constantly drink coffee and smoke cigs throughout the day. When he's alone, especially in his bedroom, he'll talk to himself about these events that have happened in the past. He thinks everyone is against him, everyone makes fun of him, everyone is doing bad. He seems to alter conversations into insults. It's strange! But more important, he let my friend (21 years old, recently had a kid) move in with us. Just a week ago he was praising my friend, saying he could stay as long as he needed to get settled back in life. Take in mind my friend is very responsible, attending college, has a job, and would do ANYTHING to help my family to show appreciation for his stay. Well, RANDOMLY, out of the blue, my father calls up after my friend has been here a month (we predicted he would be here at least the whole summer). And his call was to inform my friend that he has TWO days, just TWO days to pack up and leave. The reason? I couldn't get a reason out of my father. I argued, begged for a reason why. The conclusion came to.... my friend was making wise comments about his "work schedule". The same morning my friend got kicked out he jokingly said to my father, "oh you're running late, now huh". My father took the comment personally, didn't inform my friend, but called my house phone three hours later and randomly told us "Matt needs to get out of the house". This was because my father assumed my friend was insulting him about his work and his hours.... my friend DID NOT do this, he would have casual conversations with him while smoking cigarettes and whatnot and maybe brought up work. This was friendly conversation... but more importantly, in a nut shell, my dad won't confront people, he will dwell in the past, he's lost all social contact except my family, and he talks to himself when he's alone about negative events and he'll randomly act weird... like kicking my friend out for no legit reason and accusing my mom of cheating when she wasn't. What is the deal!?