xanadu2

Please... But meanwhile I feel able to make the choice that the issue does not have to make me miserable?

I socialise readily, enjoy meeting people, and thousands of people have looked at me with their eyes sparkling with interest, yet, except for one single relationship, all I’ve ever found is friendship. (It took me 40 years to find E, and he stayed in my life for less than seven years!) I realised years ago that I am not doing some very subtle thing that other people do, or vice versa, but at the age of 64 I had to admit that I had absolutely no idea whatsoever what people do to find partners!

Then I achieved the great insight that it resulted from the way my parents brought me up to doubt that families could ever be ‘happy’, not even the best of them. Accordingly I grew up needing a lot of persuasion to think of entering a relationship and even then viewed the ideas with great caution.

I'd like to find constructive answers to the issue of how on earth people find partners, although in the meantime I may explain my feelings that having a partner is not always necessary for happiness.

PS, I don't intend my opening to imply anything whatsoever about other people's feelings about their current problems.