How to get normal ? - Mental Health Message Board

manishrathi · 05-08-2009, 04:51 AM

I have written about myself before that I fantasize and day dream a lot about sex, being rich, being political genius , being extra ordinary at studies, being greatest sport person.
Because of my fantasies, I live in the world of fantasies. I dont feel realtime feelings. I like to feel everything in fantasies. While having sex, if I dont fantasize, I can not get erection. I dont feel like making love when my wofe is around but when I am sitting in office, sexual fantasies will keep coming in my mind all the time. I just keep touching my dick and enjoy the fantasies. Couple of years back, I would just masturbate. I have masturbated in bed, while wife is sleeping besides. I had seen such situation in the movie American Beauty, I have masturbated in train, bus, office, shower. I dont have to go hard on my penis to masturbate. I just need to keep softly touching it and keep fantasizing. Within few minutes, I would ejaculate.
In realtime, I avoid girls and act pricy. Even if I approach them, I dont get response from them. I hve some behavioural issue with it. When I am alone, I would fantasize about them and masturbate. Lately even when I know that these fantasies are useless, still I keep fantasizing. I cant quit on them.
I feel happiness, achievement in fantasies only. When these things happen in realtime, my happy reactions are fake. I just pretend being happy.
I am unable to quit on these things. How can I get rid of these fantasy world and get back to real life feelings ?

fossilapostle · 05-08-2009, 06:30 AM

I don't know, honestly. What you're describing sounds kind of like drug addiction without the drugs (at least you don't have that problem). Everybody fantasizes all the time, but it seems like your fantasies are more relevant to you than your real life is.

Honestly, this doesn't sound like the kind of thing you'll be able to solve on your own. I'd suggest seeing someone about it. Good luck.