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Old 11-29-2002, 10:59 PM   #1
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Hi. I posted the following message in mens and womans health. I got 1 reply in mens health and that person felt the same as I. I got 2 replys in womans health and they were both flames.. So Ill post here to see if anyone has felt this before. I've had a problem for many many years and now I see that I must face the truth. My problem is, I'm a jealous person. I suffer from jealousy. I am married and I have been for 17 years now. If my wife is talking to another guy outside I find myself peeking through the curtains to see if I can see any signs of my wife liking that person. She always seems so "in to it" when she's talking to another guy. My wife works just next door to my work and I find myself timing the lengh of stay that salesmen stay when they come to collect the orders. Sometimes i feel she hugs them goodby if they won't be back in the area for awhile. When I see my wife talking to another fellow i feel hurt. I feel like she is really enjoying this person. I find myself asking her questions after I seen her talking to another guy. The questions I ask her are not "accusing" questions , they are questions that tell me nothing was going on. Even if we are driving through our neighbour hood and I see her wave at a man I suffer inside. I have never told her that I am a jealous person , I have only asked her why she waves at guys that she don't know. And that usually causes some sort of a arguement or fight. It really makes me kring when I see her wave at another guy. I dont hate or hold a grudge against the other guy. The other wierd part of this story is that my wife is not a beauty queen ( you guys know what I mean) she has small boobies and is built like a pear. I don't know how you guys with beauty queen wives or girlfriends handle other guys talking to them. I am not a control freek by the way! I permit her to come and go as she wishes. Does anyone know of a mind exercise I can practice to remove this jealous mind of mine.

 
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I'd suggest seeing a counselor to figure out why you're behaving in such an extreme manner. You will eventually lose your wife if you continue on with this behavior. I doubt you'll be able to figure out on your own how to solve this as it usually indicates deep rooted insecurites on your part.

 
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My wife has no idea that I am a jealous person. This is something that I hide inside my head. I dont try to change her life in any way shape or form. I dont order her around or tell her what to do . I never have and never will nor would I do this to anyone, this problem I have is mine and only mine. NO ONE KNOWS BUT ME

 
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It sounds like some of the problem could be you have very low self-esteem and feel threatened that she may leave you because you arent worthy. I may be way off base but somehow self-esteem probably comes into play. Maybe talk to a therapist but good luck.
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