Just Doesn't Care
Hi. I have a 16 year old son who was very happy up until 2 years ago when he started 9th grade in a new school (he chose the school) and last year he switched to a new school again.
In the 9th grade year he had a lot of trouble making friends and he didn't fit in so he started to bottle everything up inside.
This year, 10th grade, he has a ton of friends at his new school but he still bottles everything up inside.
He has always been on the quiet side, cool and reserved and nothing ever really fazes him. Now, however, he states that he doesn't care about anything (except his drums which he plays about 3 hours a day). He can't seem to get emotional about anything. He doesn't mope or act sullen at all, he just doesn't seem to care about anything.
I took him to a counselor for the first time yesterday and he told the guy that the reason he was there is that he doesn't care what happens about anything. The counselor concluded the appt by telling me that he didn't see anything really wrong but that if my son ever wanted to talk to someone that he could come to him.
I know in my gut that there is something wrong. He has absolutely no motivation for anything. If we punish him for something and take away priveledges it doesn't change anything -- he could care less.
Is there a way to get those bottled up feelings out? How do we get him to see that zero motivation and no feelings for anything is a problem? His grades always go into the toilet by the time spring comes around because he decides he doesn't care about school at all. We take away his priviledges until he does his homework but he'll sit there and do nothing instead. We won't take away his drums because that is his outlet and the only thing that seems to spark him.
Right now he has no phone, no computer, no games, and he seems unfazed. His girlfriend is very worried about him too.
Last edited by sarahluke; 03-20-2010 at 01:24 PM.