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Old 05-27-2011, 11:27 AM   #1
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girlfriend molested at age 8... need advice

I am 16, and my girlfriend is 15, and she has recently told me that she was molested when she was 8 by a good friend of her Family.. She tried to tell her parents at that age but noone would listen.. and she has told me.. i have No idea how to React... she said, "He was sitting beside me at the dinner table, and put his hand on my knee, i didnt know whether to laugh or freak out because i didnt know what was happening. He slowly ran his hand fully up my leg and started rubbing my vagina. I was in a skirt. I was frozen still because i knew it was wrong and couldnt move, he had stopped when my mam told me to eat my food. I excused myself to the bathroom and when i was coming back, he was alone in the sitting room with a really bad look in his eye and walked at me with a Pace, i ran into the kitchen and never saw him again" its obvious it had effected her alot.... i just dont know what to do...

 
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Re: girlfriend molested at age 8... need advice

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i have No idea how to React...
i just dont know what to do...
Hello bonzie,

Be more than a boyfriend,be a "boy-friend."

Be that shoulder for her to cry on,if or when she needs it.....

She needs to feel both safe and comfortable around you.

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Old 09-10-2011, 12:41 AM   #3
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Re: girlfriend molested at age 8... need advice

I'm also sixteen and have grown up being molested and raped by four different people. When I told my boyfriend about it he wouldn't stop asking questions and kept ranting on about how he's gonna find him and hurt him. It bothered me like crazy. Unsuprisingly I broke up with him. Anyways just show her that your there for her and that you'll never hurt her. Make her feel safe and comforted.go at her pace

 
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