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Old 10-19-2012, 05:18 AM   #1
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Question No more interests, feeling empty and miserable and unable to study

Greetings once again,
I am not sure if this the right board but I believe it is the most suitable.

Last time I posted I was talking about that I'm really bored in my free time and I had decided to spent the most of my time with friends. It made me more socially connected to the world and I've made some new friends.

However, times changed. As it's widely known Greece is in an economical crisis and as a result I've lost my job just like the most of this Country.
Now my free time is 2 times bigger than it was before or should I say every day is free time for me. I thought since I have that much free time why don't I spent the most of it, studying and enroll to a university.

To enroll in a university, you have to give entrance exams in 4 subjects: Maths, GVR and Writing and the other two subjects depend in what you are interested in my case Technologies in Computer Communications and Programming Languages. Maths and GVR and Writing are more practical than theoretical the other two are complete theoretical. In order to write well in the exams (in a scale 1 to 20) you have to remember the whole book, word by word, letter by letter and that requires extensive studying

Luckily I'm living with my parents which means I don't have to pay for bills etc. but the problem is I no longer have an income. Losing my job made me miserable. It made my life disorganized, I quitted gym, lost interest in friendships and I believe in the whole world. I do not care when I'll go to sleep, when I'll wake up or what will I do to make my life more creative, I simply prefer to do nothing.

Enrolling to a university is simply a decision and requires excessive studying.
Studying requires commitment and dedication. I understand that university will change my life-style, it will make my life interesting and I'll have more shots in life and specifically getting a job or a career. But I really find it hard to devote myself into studying. I do not really know why but sometimes I believe I'm simply an idiot. I'm saying to myself "You've got the whole time in the world you need, you can study, just do it". But whenever I tried I cannot study more than 1 hour straight. My mind jumps to other things and that's when I lose my concentration or interest and I simply prefer to do nothing like staring in the wall.

Also I refrain from going outside because I have no money and not going outside makes my life more boring and miserable.

I'm an 24 year old male. I haven't studied seriously since I was 12 (those lessons from that age are childplay.)

My big question is this:
How can I make myself devoted to studying and while on it, being concentrated?
How do I stop being miserable and be happy?

Thanks in advance and thanks for reading

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Old 10-19-2012, 09:57 AM   #2
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Re: No more interests, feeling empty and miserable and unable to study

Hello MXAlpha.

I think something that may help is giving yourself 10-15 minute breaks between your hour long study sessions. Trying to discipline yourself to study continuously because you have all the time in the world may be a bit unrealistic. You may end up becoming burned out if you push yourself too much with studying.

Something else that may help is setting a routine for yourself. For example, you may dedicate a few hours every day to studying, but you may also benefit by pursuing other activities such as exercising, reconnecting with your friends and other leisure activities. If it's practical, why not try to find another job? Not only would having a job give some structure in your life, it may also help improve your mood as you felt miserable about losing your last job.

I also advise trying to avoid staring at the wall and ruminating. Considering how you feel miserable right now, ruminating may only reinforce the vicious cycle of not doing anything because you feel miserable and vice versa.

 
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Re: No more interests, feeling empty and miserable and unable to study

This is one of those times when you can choose your attitude, and it will come true. If you really look at the big picture, you are in a great position...While yes, you are unemployed, and however difficult that can be, add to that all the stress of coming up with the bill money every month, having a family to raise or any number of other factors, and you would be on the edge for sure!

Instead, you are living at home, safe from some of the dark realities of real life that many of your country men are facing...You have the choice if you want to go to a university, which you have chosen. Now you are in a quandry over studying. We all agree, that too much study can be mind numbing, and too much partying can be expensive. Why cant you think of things to do socially that are free or inexpensive? Dont loose friends out of lack of interest or thinking it has to be expensive. The most fun things can be free. Most of the time when we put all out focus on one small area of out life, the results are negative. Life is all about little changes, making big strides!

I would start with being grateful for what you have already, and build from there.,

Janet

 
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