How long to wait ttc after a miscarriage? - Miscarriage & Still Birth Message Board

befer70 · 12-03-2005, 11:35 PM

Hello lovely ladies!
I generally wanted to throw this question out there to see what others of you are experiencing. I was wondering how long did you wait ttc after your miscarriage, how long did it take for you to get pregnant, and were you able to have a healthy pregnancy and baby?
My heart wants to jump right back in, (I m/c only two weeks ago and a/f has not shown up yet) maybe after a month or so, but my mind is saying "darling, just wait a bit to be sure your body is ready!" My hormone levels are back to normal and I actually think I ovulated again...But what if I'm waiting 3 or more months only to have another m/c? I know there is not guarantee for anything, but I'm just thinking that if I m/c again I'd rather do it sooner than later... if you know what I mean. I'm turning 36 in April and I feel so old

Our original plan was to wait at least until I've had 2 a/f's.
I love these message boards and to all of you, thank you SOOOO much!You've helped me tremendously with advice, whether it was for me personally, or reading an advice to someone else!

shining_star · 12-04-2005, 02:31 AM

Hi Befer how are you doing?? - this is a great question -
I am a little concerned as my nipples are still sorta aching

and some food today tasted "weird"

Deep down I feel exactly the same as you - i wanna jump right in and be pg again - my heart says maybe this time will be successful.
My head says that I have to go through with the test to find out why i'm m/c'ing so often. But what happens if i fall pg between now and then - as we are having unprotected sex and want it that way.

I'm 34 and would prefer to fall pg this side of 35 and who know might even have twins, as they are in my family. We would like to have three or four children including my 9 y/o DS.

You know life is pretty amazing because before I m/c'd for the first time, I would have thought I'd be the one to have lot's of kids. I've always dreamed of a house full as children bring love and joy and the house would be full of love and noise...bliss.
~Good luck~ let me know how it goes, and I'll keep you posted as well. I would not have gotten through last week without these boards they kept my sanity.

weepyone · 12-04-2005, 08:10 AM

hi beefer
sorry for your recent loss

. i m/c my first pg at 6 weeks, i waited to have one af (waited 31 days for it) then started ttc again we bd almost everyday that month and i got a bfp. interestingly the first time i was pg i also got bfp first time of trying so i guess trying to get a bfp was not the problem. perhaps it also says fertility is not always linked to m/c risk either. i am now 24 weeks pg and all has been well except for exhaustion and nausea plaguing me, i had none of this the first pg but got it from before af was due this pg. i had a few more scans than normal as everytime i asked the doc about an ache she sent me for a u/s to make sure all is well. I also worried more this pg about another m/c but my dh was a rock of positivity i think he is wonderful for that. I wish you best of luck for bfp sending you all sticky baby dust **********.

sgc123 · 12-05-2005, 05:11 AM

I miscarried on Oct. 17th. I stopped bleeding on Oct. 21st. My dr. told me that we didn't have to wait at all to TTC because I had a natural miscarriage, but I wanted to wait one normal AF. It has been six weeks and no sign of AF. I am having some pregnancy symptoms- sore breasts, morning nausea, fatigue. I don't know if my body is just playing tricks on me or I really am pregnant again. I am too scared to do a HPT. I have heard some people say that if you don't wait one AF then your chances of miscarrying again are higher. I don't know if that is true. I definitely wanted to wait longer before TTC for emotional reasons, but if I am pregnant, I will just have to deal with it emotionally somehow. I think that three months is a long time to wait, but I think everybody is different. It is all about when you are ready physically and emotionally. All doctors seem to be different at what they recommend and even they don't know what is the right answer. I would do what seems right to you, although waiting for one AF seems valid.

chysmom · 12-05-2005, 03:48 PM

I was told to wait 1-3 cycles but my dr told me to wait until your emotionally ready. He told me that my body would be ready anytime I was emotionally ready. That even if we didnt wait there wasnt a higher chance of me m.c again.