m/c at 7 1/2 weeks - Miscarriage & Still Birth Message Board

lilh · 03-06-2006, 07:20 AM

We haven't gotten the blood test results back yet to confirm the pregnancy, but on Saturday morning I started cramping and had some bright red blood on the tissue when I went to the bathroom. I tried to tell myself the cramping was because I wasn't drinking enough and I've read that spotting when AF is due can happen throughout the first trimester, so I ignored it for a while. By the end of the day, it just got thicker and darker. Yesterday the cramping got a lot worse. Around 3 or 4 pm is when I actually saw the baby. I really didn't expect to see it. After that, the cramping got really bad and I started passing a lot of stuff. As long as I don't let the Tylenol wear off it's not so bad. And I'm not bleeding a lot. I'm waiting for the doctor's office to open so I can call them. I talked to the doc early yesterday and he said to come in for an u/s first thing this morning. I'm not sure that's necessary now. He was hoping to see that the baby was OK. I don't think I can handle this. How can you love something so much that you didn't know existed two weeks ago?

MellyMel · 03-06-2006, 09:17 AM

Lil:

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also m/c my first time at 6.5 weeks. It is awful. A pregnant woman is a pregnant woman no matter how far along and it hurts all just the same. You will get through this with time. I think what helped me the most is that I was pregnant again the very next month. If it wasn't for that, I'm sure it would have been alot harder for me. Best of luck to you in your healing process.

(((HUGS)))

Melly

CRR0908 · 03-06-2006, 12:58 PM

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my first child at 9 wks in December and I didnt think I was emotionally going to survive. I thought getting pregnant right away would help and it did until I miscarried again last month. Please make sure to grieve for your child. It the most important thing you can do for yourself and your dh. You are in my prayers.

lilh · 03-06-2006, 03:18 PM

Thanks for the support, ladies. I saw the doc this morning. They did an u/s to confirm and to see if any tissue was left. They said it's almost complete, so D&C is not necessary. I was so hoping that there were two babies, and that I only lost one. But the u/s showed an empty uterus. I'm still hurting a lot. I didn't think my whole body would be sore. It feels like every muscle was working to keep the baby. I'm so tired. I keep thinking I'll run out of tears soon, but then somebody will say something to me and I fall to pieces. My boss is very supportive. He told me to take all the time I need before I come back to work.

jmkeefe001 · 03-07-2006, 07:37 PM

I lost my baby via a "Missed Miscarriage" at 8wks and even though I only knew I was pg for 26 hrs the pain and loss was just as gut wrenching.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Rest a lot, let yourself cry it out. Holding it in/keeping your chin up and all that other stuff is just going to make you fall apart even worse at some later point.

I send hugs of understanding your way.....
M.K.