Feeling Quilty - Miscarriage & Still Birth Message Board

MannyLeigh · 05-14-2006, 07:46 AM

[FONT=Comic Sans MS]I had a miscarrage last Saturday and it was horrible I never felt so sad or alone in my life. when I got home from the hospital I passed the baby I felt so guilty flushing it down the toilet but I didn't know what to do.

ibelieve · 05-15-2006, 10:04 AM

MannyLeigh,

I am so sorry this happened to you. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but there isn't. You are probably feeling tons of emotions now, and that's normal and expected. Just please don't feel guilty. None of this was your fault. Not even flushing the toilet. Nobody should ever have to face that situation, but unfortunately, many of us have. Take care of yourself, and take time to heal. I am glad you found these boards. The ladies here are amazing and always so supportive of each other.

justpeach · 05-15-2006, 12:12 PM

Hi Manny,

I too am very sorry for your loss. Like the previous poster said, NONE of this is your fault. This is a very difficult thing to go thru & guilt & blaming myself were the #1 emotions I had. I would say this is normal-but you have to tell yourself & keep reminding yourself this is NOT your fault. As for flushing the toilet, please please don't feel guilty about that-there was nothing more that could have been done.
Many women miscarry for unknown reasons..it unfortunately seems to be very common. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!

(((HUGS))))

We're here for you if you need to talk.

~Peach

deadsy · 05-15-2006, 06:10 PM

Aww... I can SO relate to this. When I miscarried, I passed some tissue that I believe was my baby... it looked like the sack. At that time I was so freaked out I didn't know what else to do... I flushed the toilet and went to my midwife. Later I realized that that was indeed my little baby... and I was crushed. I know exactly how you feel... I also felt very guilty. But like the other girls said, right now you're experiencing a world of emotions... and the only thing that helps with it all is time. I am soo very sorry for your loss... It's really hard, but try to think that your baby is in a better place now... and hopefully s/he is watching over you and your family now. Try not to feel guilty. None of this is your fault. Good luck my dear... take care!

Linsey