Hello Everyone Well My Name Is Iris And On Monday March 6, 2006 My Precious Daughter Was Stillborn AT 30 WKS, I Named Her Maria Del Socorro In Honor Of My Grandmother Who Was A Very Important Person In My Life, She Is Also Buried With Her Which In A Way Is Comforting. Though It Has Been Three Months And I Still Cry, And I Would Really Like To Talk To Someone Who Knows What I Am Going Through Any Help Would Be Appreciated.
My son was stillborn at twenty weeks, and it's been almost a year and a half. You've probably heard it before, but time really does take some of the pain away. It will never go away completely, but the sharp edges of the grief will get duller. There are days I still bawl my eyes out, but there aren't as many of those days as the first six months.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't feel bad about crying. Crying is better than pretending that it doesn't matter and bottling up all your feelings!
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mother of two angel babies- 20 weeks, 9 weeks
Hi Iris,
My daughter was still born on March 17, 2006. I wasn't quite as far along as you were, I was 20 1/2 weeks. I still have bad days, actually several in the last week and a half (yesterday was really bad). They say it gets better as time goes on, more good days than bad. The way that I see that I have gotten some better is by looking back at those first few weeks. There are still many days that I am on autopilot and just going through the motions. But I have found that I can enjoy myself sometimes now. I don't think our babies want us to remember them with pain but with love and joy. I hold onto the knowledge that one day I will be with her in heaven and can spend eternity rocking and holding her.
Pam
im really sorry to hear about your loss,i also have lost a boy at 33ks, 4 days after our first girls 1st birthday,believe it or not ,time is a great healer even though i still have memories of his pink face still looking like hes asleep,and after ten yrs and 7 pregnancies i have the 4 chilldren i always wanted.my youngest daughter is 3 and before her i had 2 +18 wk miscarriages brought on at the hospital.i had pre-eclampsia with my 3 losses and i nearly died with my 33wk son after having him,i have a daughter of 9 ,sons 8 & 6 and my youngest girl .i treasure every moment with them and i feel guilty for shouting at them when theyre naughty,weve been through alot in 12 yrs together my husband and i and it has made us stronger as a family,we found out our eldest daughter had dyspraxia at the age of 6,when your out walking and looking into space other peope around are oblivious to the turmoil going inside your head and you feel like you just want to shout it out loud,so someone else can share youre grief,i admit i spent most of my time crying once i was in bed,it took me a year to pull myself together after losing my first son,now hes a memory i hold when i looked at him in my arms,and when i pass on i still have his ashes so he wil be with me where he belongs,
i know your grief is still new and in time like me when the time feels right you will want to try for another baby,when that time is right i just want to wish you every bit of luck for the future and though you never mentioned if you have any other children or not i hope everything turns out how you wish and the best of luck to you
I had a beautiful daughter Callie who was stillborn at 34 wks just over 7 yrs ago.
I will say that time is a healer although you never do forget. Certain things always bring back the memories. You look at your living children and wonder what you angel would have been like.
It can help if you can find out what brought about the stillbirth although in some cases, you never do determine why. In my case, it was caused by antibodies which attacked the placenta. I also had 5 miscarriages.
It did take me over a year to pull myself together as well. It was hard to look after my son plus find the time to grieve. In the first year, don't expect yourself to heal overnight. Just breathe and take one day at a time. If you can find someone to talk to, then talk away. I found it really helped. Remember that grief doesn't have a time limit. No one says you have to recover in 3 months or 6 months or a year. Every person is different and both you and your daughter are entitled to your grief.
my second son was stillborn at 30 wks 4 years ago in november and i still grieve for him. not so often but he is in my thoughts much. when my younger sister lost her first daughter at 7 and a half months her nurse at the delivery told her that she had lost a child over twenty years ago and she still thought about her baby. my mother cried from time to time about the stillborn son she had and her 18 month old she lost before i was born so yes time is a great healer. but those scares will last and thats okay. its good to remember our kids even if it brings a sting to the heart and a tear to the eye. they brought joy to our lives in their little ways and wiggles and dreams of things to come and those memories are worth honoring even if it hurts
I'm so sorry for your losses! May you be strong enough to go through all this and find peace within yr hearts.
I know you will never forget your babies and you shouldn't.
They are little angels watching you from above.
god bless you and yr families.
Thank You All For Your Wonderful Thoughts And Prayer Today It Has Been 3 Months And I Feel Ok I Still Have Those Days That I Long For My Daughter But With God's Help I Overcome The Pain. So Thank You All For The Support You Have Given Me
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