I posted here many times in the past. . . My first son Patrick, died Jan 11 2005 he died at birth, never took a breath. I was 9 months preg and they did an emergency C-sectin. It was horrible and shocking an life changing.
Well I would like to announce the birth of our second son, Owen, who was born 4 weeks early on Aug. 16 2006. It was a long and high anxiety pregnancy, with lots of ultrasounds and tests. I gave myself shots of heparin 2x a daythe whole 36 weeks. HE was born by C-section and is just beautiful and wonderful. I was so stressed going into the delivery I cried before they wheeled me into surgery. When I heard him cry, I couldn't believe it was my long awaited baby. He screamed his head off and it was a beautiful sound. His apgar scores were 8 and 9! (Patricks were 0)
It has been a difficult adjustment being a mom mainly due to lack of sleep, and I did have some postpartum blues but in general I recovered quick and we are doing well. Owen was 7 lb. 13 oz 4 weeks early! He did have some preemie problems though low birth weight was not one of them. He was in NICU for 5 days, and did not nurse well, (I did give up the pumping and go to all formula after a week, I was so stressed and drained.)lost weight, had jaundice, low blood sugar and feeding difficulties. All these problems are somewhat normal for preemies and he recovered very quickly. He is now 10 pounds and very strong.
I just want all you sad mamas who have lost pregnancies and babies to know, that it is possible to have a healthy baby after a loss. I went to different doctors and hospital than last time and had excellent medical care, saw a perinatal specialist all throughout.
Good luck to all, just wanted to share my story. I really believed back then I would never conceive again, let alone have a live baby.! But here he is and right now screaming for some dinner.
Very sorry to hear about yr first son...I know it's a memory in yr life that will always live with you but....VERY HAPPY for yr 2nd child. God bless him and god bless you all. CONGRATULATIONS!
Take care xxx
what a wonderful outcome for you and and thank you so much for telling us! You made me cry .....mostly because sometimes it feels such an effort to stay positive but then you read this and remember whay it will all be worth it in the end! thanks again, and good luck!! xx
Like yourself, we went on to have a successful pregnancy after the loss of our daughter. I was almost at term when my daughter Callie was stillborn due to blood clots in the placenta. I went on heparin and baby aspririn and two years after her stillbirth, we gave birth to our son.
He was also born early, nearly 2 months premature, but today is a very healthy little boy, just starting kindergarten.
It's a long, hard road after the loss of a child, you never forget or stop mourning your lost angel. but there can eventually be happiness again.
yes Patrick was a normal pregnancy though i did have gestational diabetes and severe swelling early on. i think i had some things going on that my doctors dismissed as "normal" I had decreasing fetal movement around 28 weeks but was told not to worry baby was fine though they never ran tests.
So I was completely shocked and horrified to learn he had died during the birth. Especially since he had a heartbeat going into surgery (just no movement on the non stress test) NO cause of death was found in the autopsy, he was perfect in every way. They suggest he suffered oxygen deprivation in utero but could not tell me why. The reason I took heparin during the second pregnancy was because I had developed deep vein blood clots in my leg after my first C-section.
I always found it helpful to read other success stories of women who went on to have healthy babies. At the time I was hopeless, it had taken me years to conceive Patrick and I thought he was my only chance to have a child. I was so depressed but held onto hope that we could have another.
WE conceived Owen on our first try, almost a year later. WE were so surprised!
So I just wanted to offer hope to everyone that it does and will get better and not to give up on your dream of a live healthy baby!
It helps me when I hear other peoples stories knowing your not the only one who has had to suffer such pain & heart ache, congratulations and good luck to all.
I have lost 2 full term babies, baby 1, a boy died in 1996 at 6 days from bacterial meningitis, it was a normal pregnancy with no problems. baby 2, a girl born 1997 happy and healthy. baby 3, a boy born 1999 also happy and healthy. baby 4 a boy, still born 2004. It was a normal pregnancy up until I went into labour naturally when all movement stopped and I was feeling very unwell, it turned out there was a "true knot" in the cord and when I went into labour and he became engaged and ready for birth the knot tightened and he fell asleep forever. Baby 5 a girl was born 10.5mts later in 2005 delivered 2 weeks early by c-section happy and healthy, I elected to have her early by c-section as I didn't want to go into labour naturally, I don't think and my doctor also didn't think I would be able to mentally handle going through the labour and delivery so soon after a lost.
Just my story, I hope it offers encouragement to those that have also suffered such a lost.
Last edited by Dragon Fly; 10-28-2006 at 01:30 PM.