Hi all. I just found out yesterday that the embryo died about a month or so ago. Maybe five weeks ago. I havn't had a spot of blood or anything, so this came as a surprise. Also, I've still had pregnancy symptoms. I noticed my breasts aren't as tender lately. But I still have the white discharge, and a large uterus. I am worried that my body is not going to expell the material on it's own. One question I have is does your body show signs before actually miscarrying? Other than the actual blood and cramps. For instance, pregnancy symptoms finally coming to an end, like breast tenderness, discharge, etc.? I talked to my midwife today, but ofcourse she was busy and I forgot to ask some questions. I was wondering if anyone else had a miscarriage after the embryo died a few weeks previously. Please let me know. I am also fearing what I will see when I do actually miscarry. Thanks.
The same thing happened to a friend of mine. She miscarried, but did not expel anything. She ended up having to get a d&c. Until she did get one, she contined having pregnancy sypmtoms, including morning sickness.
Another friend of mine had a miscarriage, and expelled (please excuse the following graphic description) into the toilet. She was four months along, and was able to tell that it was a boy. It was very emotional.
I'm not trying to scare you, just trying to make you aware of the possibilites. From what I understand, the second scenario is very rare.
I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I would suggest calling your midwife again, or your family doctor. And get this checked out as soon as possible. The sooner you get this painful situation over with, the sooner you can grieve and then get back on with you life (whether it is trying again or recuperating more)
Good luck to you - take care
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Thank you for all your posts. I have finally stopped feeling pregnant in the ways I described. A nurse at my midwife's office said that if your symptoms start to diminish, then your levels of HCG are diminishing, which means eventually, when it is low enough, the material will be expelled. Luckily I was only 8 weeks when the embryo died, so I doubt I will recognize anything. I fear a D&C for a couple reasons. One is that I just can't stand the thought of what happens. It makes me want to throw up thinking about it. Almost everyone I know, including my mother, has had one or more, and has told me it's not as bad as it seems. And also, because of insurance reasons, it might not be covered. I was in the process of getting my AIM coverage, a program which is for people who don't qualify for Medical, but didn't have insurance prior to pregnancy. It's offered in California, where I live. If I miscarry on the day coverage begins, which is about 10 days from now, I will still have to pay the total cost of copay. It's a lot less than the cost of a couple nights in the emergency room. I was wondering does anyone else, who lives in California, have any idea how much a D&C costs? I have tried to find out through the hospital and the doctor's office, but have been put through a run-around. Anyway, I might not be covered anyway, depending on how this program views pregnancy. I might not be considered pregnant once the embryo is no longer viable. But I might be considered pregnant until I actually have my miscarriage. This is all too much for me to deal with right now on top of everything else. And ofcourse I can't get a hold of anyone who knows anything.
Once again, thank you for your words of sympathy. I have one beautiful daughter who's 2 1/2 years old. So I am thanking my lucky stars for her. If she is the only child my husband and I ever have, we are filled with thankfulness, and honor.
I am sorry to hear of your loss of your little boy. I don't know what to say except that I am sorry and April 30th will always have a place in my heart too.