Re: Embryo died, but no miscarriage yet
Thank you for all your posts. I have finally stopped feeling pregnant in the ways I described. A nurse at my midwife's office said that if your symptoms start to diminish, then your levels of HCG are diminishing, which means eventually, when it is low enough, the material will be expelled. Luckily I was only 8 weeks when the embryo died, so I doubt I will recognize anything. I fear a D&C for a couple reasons. One is that I just can't stand the thought of what happens. It makes me want to throw up thinking about it. Almost everyone I know, including my mother, has had one or more, and has told me it's not as bad as it seems. And also, because of insurance reasons, it might not be covered. I was in the process of getting my AIM coverage, a program which is for people who don't qualify for Medical, but didn't have insurance prior to pregnancy. It's offered in California, where I live. If I miscarry on the day coverage begins, which is about 10 days from now, I will still have to pay the total cost of copay. It's a lot less than the cost of a couple nights in the emergency room. I was wondering does anyone else, who lives in California, have any idea how much a D&C costs? I have tried to find out through the hospital and the doctor's office, but have been put through a run-around. Anyway, I might not be covered anyway, depending on how this program views pregnancy. I might not be considered pregnant once the embryo is no longer viable. But I might be considered pregnant until I actually have my miscarriage. This is all too much for me to deal with right now on top of everything else. And ofcourse I can't get a hold of anyone who knows anything.
Once again, thank you for your words of sympathy. I have one beautiful daughter who's 2 1/2 years old. So I am thanking my lucky stars for her. If she is the only child my husband and I ever have, we are filled with thankfulness, and honor.
I am sorry to hear of your loss of your little boy. I don't know what to say except that I am sorry and April 30th will always have a place in my heart too.