MS symptoms and pregnancy! HELP - Multiple Sclerosis Message Board

tallgirl1982 · 10-25-2006, 09:35 AM

I have balance probs and legs arent too strong, i really want a baby but im worried that wen i get big these probs will make it difficult! as wen u r heavy it will be even harder to retain balance and leg strength!
people say they feel great wen preg, i mean has anyones balance issues cleared up?
what type of symptoms for u disappeared?

hope anyone can help!!

OneKrackedMom · 10-27-2006, 07:50 PM

I don't have an MS diagnosis, I am having many health issues that might lead to it though. I don't really have the answers that you are looking for, but as a Mom, I will share something with you. I had my son when I was 29 years old. As you can tell from my signature, he has Autism. There have been times that I thought "If I knew then what I know now, would I do it again?" The answer is, I doubt it. Not because he has Autism, I love him with all my heart, I doubt that I would do it again due to my own health problems. A lot of days it takes every thing I have in me just to get up and care for myself, let alone a special needs child. It's nobody's fault that he has Autism, or that my health is so crappy, but as a Mom......I wish that I felt better so that I could do things with him that other parents can do with their kids. The physical things that kids love, riding bikes, skating, wrestling, just goofing off and having fun. When you are in pain all the time, it is hard to be a good Mom, a good wife, half the time I fell so crappy that I don't even like me! I know you didn't ask about all that, but I too was desperate to have a baby, I went through hell just to have him, but hind sight being twenty - twenty, I can't honestly say that things would be the same. I am 38 years old now, my son is 8, I wish things were different, I wish that I could be a better Mom......one that has the energy and a healthy body to cherish every second of his life, like he deserves. I am not telling you to give up your dream, I would never do that, I just wanted you to know that sometimes, just maybe, our dreams may need to be redirected a little. I hope you understand what I mean, I don't mean to discourage you in any way or to hurt you...just sharing a little of my pain, I wish you all the best.

Kris

tallgirl1982 · 11-03-2006, 02:15 PM

dont worry u havent discouraged me! i dont feel that terrible i can care for my daughter just fine! if my balance is that bad i will take a valium and be ok! if my legs ache i will stay in with her and sit around so im not worried

iluvsiamese · 11-05-2006, 02:00 PM

No matter who you are you always wish you could do more for your children... I have two. 9 and 11. I had them when I was 25 and 26. I knew at the time that I had MS, but had not been given a positive DX because they were worried at the time that it would affect my insurance. They finally relented with that theory and DX'd me officially after I had my second child. There are many days that I can't do the things that I want to do with them, but I wouldn't trade them for the world. They are what keeps me going. If it weren't for my children, I would probably have just given up by now. I know there are many things that I can't do or do as well as other moms because of my health issues, but that doesn't make a difference in my overall life with my kids. My kids have to make some allowances for me, for example I've never really encouraged the outdoor sports type thing because I can't take temperature variations, instead I encourage them to be more artistic. It's worked very well for us. Also I think the children of parents with chronic illnesses are much more compassionate kids. They understand that people can't control illnesses. It can be trying, but I would never try to discourage someone that has any chronic illness from having children. We may have to do things a little differently from the normal routine, but I think our children will come out stronger for it in the end. I hope this helps some. You will feel on top of the world during pregnancy, I don't understand why but if they could fake your body into thinking it were pregnant or something with changing your hormone levels to mimic it, I think it would do wonders for the symptoms of MS for most people. The down side to this is that about a week or two after you give birth you will be a lot more likely to have an MS attack. I had bad attacks after both of my kids were born. But if you're prepared, that shouldn't be any problem. Just make sure you have a good support system around you and don't be afraid to ask for help. I'm lucky that my parents and in laws live very close to me, so if I'm having a bad day, my kids can go over there, and they are always welcome. So make sure you have someone that can help out with the kids if you need it.

tallgirl1982 · 11-05-2006, 02:59 PM

thank u for ur kind message. I know i dont do everything 'normal' mothers do, like some days i am tired and dizzy so i stay in, my daughter plays fine and we laugh together no matter what! we still play ball together just not running around like mad! i wouldnt be doing that if i felt fine anyway as i always hated sports LOL!
i do my big shop with my partner as i always get paranoid about my balance or my legs aching so i like him there so i can grab onto the trolley and stop myself freaking out LOL!!! tonight i went to see a big firework show, i had to walk up a big hill and i was nervous as my legs feel crap today but i was fine i even sat in my daughters pushchair wen i was up there! LOL!!
When i do have another i am going to stay with my mum or mother i law i think as if i do get a bad time i know i will need help, if my second is anything like my first then i will be fine

I have read great things about the med LDN and nobody has said anything about how well it works after having a baby in regards to the attacks after the birth! but i am willing to try that

What symptoms do u have? what changed during pregnancy and after the birth wen u had an attack?
thanks alot