Hi Regan- NEVER an imposition when someine is searching for relief! Welcome to the board. This place has saved my sanity many times over. There are wonderful people here (did I just compliment myself??) LOL.
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. My docs thought I had MS for about 9 months but there were some things that did not add up and my MRIs were clean. finally, thankfully, Someone pointed me to Lyme. I was diagnosed last month. I know you said you had negative Lyme tests but what the normal docs do not seem to understand is that there are NO accurate Lyme tests - Spinal Tap only catches 5%, it is very common to have a negative western blot if you have been infected for a long period of time. Lyme can change forms and can get ris of it's cell walls to hide in your normal cells so your immune system does not know it is there and does not build the anti-bodies- which is what the tests look for.
The only doc I would trust to rule in or out Lyme is a LLMD (Lyme literate MD). I went to 3 neuros (including high ranking Mass General) and a Rhuematologist and they all took one look at the negative Western blot and said- not lyme-. The earlier you can identify and treat it, the better your prognosis.
I am in Mass and have heard of 2 LLMds but they both are a bit questionable on the Lyme circuit. I go to one of them (he diagnosed me) and I am going to check him out with the south boston lyme support group. I would sugest if you think you may have Lyme after looking at the list below ( I stole the list from a lyme knowledgable poster named Ticker), you should call that support group ( in addition to going to the Lyme board here).
I agree with your husband- you should get a real dx. Some of the treatments for these diseases are exactly opposite each other- like Lyme needs to boost immune systems and MS needs to depress them. steroids are a Killer for lyme people.
Best wishes- you will continue in my thoughts- please let us know how you are doing!
Unexplained fevers, sweats, chills, or flushing
Unexplained weight change--loss or gain
Fatigue, tiredness, poor stamina
Unexplained hair loss
Swollen glands
Sore throat
Testicular pain/pelvic pain
Unexplained menstrual irregularity
Unexplained milk production: breast pain
Irritable bladder or bladder dysfunction
Sexual dysfunction or loss of libido
Upset stomach
Change in bowel function-constipation, diarrhea
Chest pain or rib soreness
Shortness of breath, cough
Heart palpitations, pulse skips, heart block
Any history of a heart murmur or valve prolapse?
Joint pain or swelling
Stiffness of the joints, neck, or back
Muscle pain or cramps
Twitching of the face or other muscles
Headache
Neck creeks and cracks, neck stiffness, neck pain
Tingling, numbness, burning or stabbing sensations, shooting pains
Facial paralysis (Bell's Palsy)
Eyes/Vision: double, blurry, increased floaters, light sensitivity
Ears/Hearing: buzzing, ringing, ear pain, sound sensitivity
lncreased motion sickness, vertigo, poor balance
Lightheadedness, wooziness
Tremor
Confusion, difficulty in thinking
Difficulty with concentration, reading
Forgetfulness, poor short term memory
Disorientation: getting lost, going to wrong places
Difficulty with speech or writing
Mood swings, irritability, depression
Disturbed sleep-too much, too little, early awakening
Exaggerated symptoms or worse hangover from alcohol