MSnik update - Multiple Sclerosis Message Board

MSNik · 06-27-2008, 04:23 PM

hi all....well, it happened just like I thoght it might...I went to work today and learned that they cut my hours to 3 days a week, without my consent..basically I was told that if I didnt like it, I could leave. My guess is thats what they were hoping me to do. They didnt really give me any choice, they managed to do it just in time to NOT have to pay me for a holiday next week- they also used the reasoning that they feel that Im having a meltdown and that I cant handle a fulltime job. My boss even went as far as to tell me that if I find another parttime job the days that I no longer work for him, he will consider it rediculous- whatever that means, since its "obvious' that Im not in any condition to work 5 days a week..

So is this discrimination? Do I really want to sit thru another meeting with another lawyer to find out? Im exhausted. im tired of doctor, lawyers and mostly people right now. I dont want to see anyone or do anything..

There were alot more issues wth this downsizing move he made..I no longer get commission or bonuses of any sort- I was told that I have minimums which I have to meet, and that I should be able to do that in 3 days- I disagree...they gave me basically the same minimum requirements which they expected out of me at FULLTIME! They know they have me over the barrel and its exactly what they wanted..
I wont find out about my interview until next Tuesday- so I sat there and took it, then I came home and cried my eyes out.

I really doubt there is much I can do about this. My gut says that they arent stupid enough to do something which they have "checked out with their attorneys' first; however I still think Im being hurt- due to the fact that they found out I have a disability.

thoughts on this one?
Nikki

glamour girl · 06-27-2008, 05:56 PM

Gosh nikki,
I'm sitting here stunned. I've been low for two days feeling like crap. I've got a few posts to catch up on. Your here was the top of the list. Can't believe they've done this to you. After ALL that you have done.
Its true at the end of the day. We're only a number huh?
I'm glad to see your getting some support from yr hubby, thats got to be comforting.
I think yr boss has got his own opinions on weather he can do this to you.
I know here they can't do it without yr consent. I feel your sadness. I sincerly hope once the smoke lift, you find a path to clarity and happiness.
G.G. xx

MSNik · 06-27-2008, 06:35 PM

thanks GG..im not sure how much support Im getting at home right now...it changes by the hour...but Im trying to be grateful and basically shame into making me continue being miserable in order to appease him!
My boss, is another matter altogether...this has been a long time coming, unfortuantely, with their attitude, finding out I have MS was the icing on the cake..
Ill keep you posted.
Hugs back!Nik

Tasia W · 06-27-2008, 06:42 PM

Hi Nikki
Yes, this definately sounds like discrimination to me and by all appearances they have set you up to fail! Your boss telling you that if you find another part-time job it will be rediculous is just nasty words coming out of his mouth, meant to be-little you and make you feel worthless. He knows that he cannot keep you from finding another part-time job and so he is on a major power trip and he is out to get you any way that he can. Anything that makes him "win" and you "loose" right. I have seen this before and shame on all the bosses out there that engage in such bullying tactics!!
Nikki, you have helped so many of us on this board. You have integrity, strength and courage!! I carry with me the Serenity Prayer and when things are bad, which they sure have been lately, but I am not going to burden you, I repeat these words over and over...and then over again. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. Of course there is much more to this poem and I am sure that many of us on this board repeat these words over and over in time of need.
Your career is in upheaval right now, but know that this will not last forever. Something better is meant for you Nikki and soon you will know it. If I am understanding correctly it sounds like your husband is more supportive and I sure hope he keeps this up for your sake. We have to choose our battles and only you can decide if this is a battle worth fighting for. How is your health? Is this worth it? Whatever you decide will be the right decision and you have alot of people on this board that will support whatever you choose to do. Cry your eyes out as much as you need to. Who cares how swollen your eyes get or how runny your nose gets, crying is a necessary emotion it gets rid of all the ugly!!
Nikki I hope each day gets better for you and you are in my thoughts and prayers
warmest wishes and a big hug
T

MSNik · 06-27-2008, 07:07 PM

Thanks Tasia, and Monkey.

Tasia, I know you have experience with all of this, what do you think? SHould I consult an attorney on this one? Right now all I want to do is run fast and furious and get away from this evil boss of mine- and never look back!

I do know the serenity prayer and I do say it often! Appreciate the sentiment you brought with that...but right now, in all honesty, Im not finding the wisdom to do much..I feel like its been one mistake after another for the past year!

anyway, husband is currently having a cow over financials...so he is flip flopping regularly on this one...

I really wonder how my boss thinks he is getting away with this..
????so confused...
Nikki