It could be that your doctor is contracted with the Mayo clinic for testing. I know that the Cleveland Clinic also does NMO antibody testing.
I would assume that if it is negative for NMO then it is probably MS or pointing in that direction.
Limbo land can be very frustrating, but it would appear that you are on the right path. It appears that you have not been seeing an MS Specialist yet, but if the report is negative, you will be. Thus, you are doing well- all things considered. It takes the patience of Job to get through the process.
Please feel free to vent here. You need not feel alone in this and it looks like you have a good familial support team in place.
Please note that the process of arriving at "MS" as the diagnosis is not easy. Along with NMO, Lupus, Lyme.....the total number of possibilities is about 400. Your doctors have to test for specific possibilities in order to eliminate them from your case. When everything is eliminated, then the doctor can say "MS" with certainty. Stay strong!