Am a big girl - Obesity Message Board

Bonnie1 · 10-24-2005, 12:49 PM

Hi

I am new to this board, my hubby has been posting on the Anger Management Board as he is a grumpy old s*d! and I am also on the Epilepsy Board as I have that as an illness (along with IIH). I am obese, I am 23 years old and I weigh about the same!
I have always been bigger, although as a teenager I was pretty steady at a size 16 until I went to university. I pilled pn the weight, ate pretty much McDonlds, KFC, pizza or chips as I dodn't have time to cook. Drank loads off larger and then got shingles really bad. Was admitted to hospital after a year at uni and I had gone up from a 16 to a size 26!

Had met hubby before going to uni and when I came home I got married (age 21). He loves me larger, he has always gone out with larger women and does not find skinny girls attractive.

Still, due to illness I am now registered disabled and I have limited mobility, so my weight has crept up. I am now very large and a size 30. I have cravings for chocolate (even though eating eat gives me stomach cramps, headaches and heart palpitations) and I can devoure amazing amounts in one go. I just love food, but I am terrified of the problems that come with being so overweight (so scared I can;t even vring myself to type the words!). I am seeing a surgeon late November about the possibility of a Gastric Bypass (becuase of one of my illnesses, I am an ideal candidate), and I try to do as much as I can, but one of my main problems is due to my constant dizziness I can't even walk around my home alone let alone exercise or go outside alone!

Just thought I would say hi and tell my story.

ravenousdog · 10-24-2005, 06:00 PM

hi im Kristal and im 21 im also a verybig girl and just cant stop eating i get so upset at myself it makes me cry and that just makes me eat even more im not a worker which makes it worse cause that leaves me to sit and be a couch potato i do love to go out and play with my dog but i have to sit down every so often. My husband works nights so that leaves me and the fridge and it always seems to be calling me i also hope to be able to have gastric by pass surgery.

hope you the best

byntstr8 · 11-02-2005, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ravenousdog

hi im Kristal and im 21 im also a verybig girl and just cant stop eating i get so upset at myself it makes me cry and that just makes me eat even more im not a worker which makes it worse cause that leaves me to sit and be a couch potato i do love to go out and play with my dog but i have to sit down every so often. My husband works nights so that leaves me and the fridge and it always seems to be calling me i also hope to be able to have gastric by pass surgery.

hope you the best

Please Please Please do you homework on the gastric bypass surgery before making any decisions. I had the surgery and I do not regret it in the least, however the problems that caused my weight gain didn’t disappear when the weight did. The one most important thing in my experience has been the fact that this society revolves around food. Think about it for a moment. Weddings=receptions=food (and cake). Death=mourning=people flood your house with food. Good things in life we celebrate by "going out to eat". The one thing that the surgery will take away from you is those comforts and security blankets for eating. It is extremely hard to replace that with anything. Surgery is not an answer, it's a tool, and the most important thing to remember is...IT IS A LIFE ALTERING DECISION and one that should be made after all the pros and cons have been reported. I am now getting ready to have my panniculectomy (tummy tuck) and it is scaring me to death. I am being told it is 10 times worse than the bypass surgery itself. But I have no choice, it has to be done. Good luck to everyone in this day to day battle.

worldtraveler · 11-14-2005, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by byntstr8

I am now getting ready to have my panniculectomy (tummy tuck) and it is scaring me to death. I am being told it is 10 times worse than the bypass surgery itself. But I have no choice, it has to be done. Good luck to everyone in this day to day battle.

Hi, out of curiosity, why does it have to be done? Is the extra skin life-threatening?

seekingnormal05 · 11-16-2005, 03:49 PM

Bonnie:

I understand your desparation but please make sure you research the gastric bypass before you do it. YOU MUST be able to not binge in the begining. And, after you've had it, continued over eating will stretch your stomach back out regardless of what they tell you. I agree with byntstr8. It's a
tool. And it's a wonderful tool for those who are ready. But you have to
be ready or, in 5 years, you will be right back in the same situation gaining weight back and struggling.

Seeking