Please Read - Obesity Message Board

Henshin · 10-17-2003, 08:04 AM

Hi, to everyone here. I'm here because I need support from other people gong through the **** that I'm going through.I'm 20 Male, 5'5, 250lbs, from NY, I have no social life ,mainly because of my low self-esteem and fear of rejection because of the way I look. Latly I've been feeling so "numb", you know, when you can't even cry because you've suppressed the pain so deep inside you self thinking it'll go away. Thats how I've been feeling latly. Last year around this time, I had lost weight and gotten to 213lbs, I ate healthier and I ate less food in general, I went to the gym 5time a week. I would go out more ect. But some how during the year I gained it all back and then some. I need to learn how to become constant, and keep my will power, or "fire in side", going all the time. I need insiration. I'm a very spiritual person, but latly, I feel so lost in the world. I'm not depprerssed, just ignorant and numb. I feel that this weight is stopping me from acheiving what I want to do in life. I'm so scared that my life will become a pityful cylce of period of being healther and then gainig it all back. I need to find a median balanced point where I can totaly change my life forever.I know that I can lose the weight it's just that I don't have inspiration, or will power. My "fire" inside estinguished, or in deep slumber. If you have any advice, Please, This is my last hope(seriously). Thank you.

Travel · 10-17-2003, 09:29 AM

You have started off in the right direction by posting on this board. There are a lot of people here that have, and are, going through the same feelings you are having. I say to stay on this board, check it regularly. You will find a lot of people in your same boat that will understand and may be able to say something that will help. Also check the "weight loss" topic on this board.

It is easy to get discouraged with something as hard to do as losing weight. It is possible, tho, if it becomes a life change instead of a roller coaster of diets. At the age of 20 there are so many things you can do to keep yourself interested and inspired. You still have the physical capability of about anything you want to do.

Whatever program you choose just be sure it is one that is best for you and that you can stay with, it is different for everyone.

With concern,

Elizabeth M.

nikki2kids · 10-17-2003, 10:26 AM

Henshin, welcome. When I first came to this board, I found tremendous comfort. Everyone here is either going through want you are, or has at some point in their lives. I was feeling pretty hopeless and looking for a quick answer to weight loss. What I learned is that there is no such thing. You have to find what works for you and you have to know that you will most likely have to deal with it for the rest of your life. I recently joined Weight Watchers. It's relatively inexpensive and it's helpfull to go to a meeting and acutally see and hear others going through what I am going through. You're only 20. Your entire life is ahead of you and it is in your hands to make the best of it. If you were able to get to the gym 5 days a week, you can do it again. It is so healthy for you to get physical activity, even if you don't lose weight. START TODAY! Make a decision that will stick with you the rest of your life. Everyone here will support you. Check in often. I'd like to know how you are doing. Best of luck.

sjg2752 · 10-19-2003, 12:34 AM

Henshin,
I agree with nikki,You are young & you can do this! I don't know if this will help you.But I have lost 66 lbs in a little over 22 weeks. I'm do to weigh in at my Dr's Monday again.Monday will be 23 weeks for me. This diet has been great for me due to the fact I don't have anymore cravings for foods I shouldn't eat,and I'm not hungry all the time. The 2 week induction part of Atkin's is ruff.But once you get through it .The rewards are great!!
A lot of people are having good luck with Weight Watchers.There are a lot of different diets on these boards. But no matter what diet you decide to do. It's really a good idea to check with your Dr.first.Get blood work done etc. Plus you might want to ask your Dr. what kind of a diet he recommends for you. The people on these boards will help you all they can. So Welcome & hang in there! You'll get going
& you'll make it!! Don't give Up!!

Good Luck!!
sjg

Henshin · 10-20-2003, 08:35 AM

Thank you guys so much for replying, I really appreciate this. I'm going to start the change today, I'll keep you guys updated. Much love...