I cant stop. I always have sores in my mouth because of it. I also keep rubbing my tongue on an area of my gums thats sore and its making it worse.
You may be thinking that its not that big of a deal. but for me it is. Because I have sores on my lip I worry about peoples spit flying into my mouth and I catch aids. Now I dont know a lot about aids but I'm pretty sure you cant get it this way, but I obsessively worry. I just dont even want to go out of the house right now.
Please dont think I'm a dummy!!!
When I say it out loud it sounds so silly.
Somtimes I think that I will worry myself into an illness. Does that make sense.
It is so strange that I read your post this morning...because I just had an issue with biting the inside of my mouth.
I have been worrying lately about catching cold sores from people. I was over a relative's house and accidently drank out of her cup. Granted, she did not have a visible cold sore or have I ever seen her with one. But, I was convinced that I was going to get the virus that causes cold sores and then eventually pass it on to my baby (which is always my worst fear - that something will happen to her).
Anyway, on the drive home, I kept biting, running my tongue over that area, etc., until finally I created a sore area. I did it myself! I created my own fear. Anyway, it wasn't a cold sore, because the irritated area was better the next day after I stopped messing with it.
Anyway, sorry to go on and on about my thing...but I just wanted to let you know that what is going on with you is not that strange and I can relate.
I too worry about getting illnesses all the time.
By the way, I don't think you can get AIDS from someone spitting on a sore on your mouth.
mom of one
When I go through things like this I get afraid to kiss my kids goodnight or let them drink after me. I feel dirty and diseased. They are so precious and vulnerable. Its scary somtimes.
God I wish I wasnt like this.
I've seeing a therapist. She hasnt diagnosed me or anything. But I really havent told her a lot about my obsessions.
Somtimes its not that bad. then other times it can be bad. Is that normal for people with OCD for it to come and go. Well not go completely but ease up? Did that make sense.
I dont understand why I dont want to talk about it with my therapist. I've been seeing her for over 2 yrs. Now I only have 5 visits left with her. I think she will be real mad if I bring it up now that our sessions are almost over.
Plus I dont feel like she would really help me with it.
I dont know what to do.
[QUOTE=Duner]Plus I dont feel like she would really help me with it.
I dont know what to do.
Duner, you may very well be right that she can't help you with the OCD. Psychotherapy doesn't help OCD. You need someone who specializes in OCD. Your current therapist may be able to give you a recommendation regarding who specializes in OCD. You need cognitive behavioral therapy and/or meds.
OCD does wax and wane. There are ways to ease the "flares" though through CBT. Stress seems to be a factor.
I bite the inside of my mouth and peel the skin off my lips with my teeth. My lips are chapped and bloody from October-April. I feel so sorry for my husband having to kiss me with my scratchy, scabby lips!
I can relate to the lip biting thing. Although this is actually one of the OCD things that I don't do anymore (symptoms change), I used to chew the insides of my cheeks until they bled.... Although I never really thought of it as an OCD thing until recently, it was probably one of my earlier manifestations... I don't do it anymore, although I do chew the skin off my fingers and sometimes my knuckles....when I say that I mean the top layer....not to the bone....it is a nervous thing...not a human flesh thing....
If you are licking your lips because of dryness or they become inflamed because you lick them constantly, I would suggest getting a humidifier and using some chap stick. Ironically, the more you lick them, the dryer they become.
My 12 year old daughter has the same fear and compulsion about other people's spit flying into her mouth. She rubs her shirt on the sides of her mouth until her cheeks are cracked and red. I feel so very sad for her. I can understand your pain as I have watched her. She takes paxil and it has helped her to slow down her thought process so the fears are a little lessened. Her fears and compulsions do come and go, but this has been a recurring one for her. I know it was easy for her to talk about her fears when she was younger, but as she has gotten older it is more difficult because she now recognizes that they are not the norm. But, when she does tell her therapist, it seems like it makes her realize that it is over the top of normal and brings her back a little closer to being in control. Good luck to you.
Dunar, how are things going now? I'm wondering if there is any way for you to make a small step of progress with this. The biting is the worst so is there any way that you can delay the biting or replace it with the licking. Then if you are tempted to rub with your tongue can you possibly pacify the OCD with just a short rub. I may not quite understand what your exact behaviors are but the general idea is to find some way to win even if it is a small "win". Keep making the "win" greater and greater until you've abolished the compulsion. You do a similar thing with hand-washing. First try to get away with less and less soap. Then try get your hands out of the water faster and faster. Then try to delay washing for longer and longer periods of time and maybe without soap. I'm trying to think of how you can apply this technique to your particular compulsion. Let us know how you are doing. It sounds very stressful and painful. Terry