Originally Posted by Rick999
I don't know what to do. I want to improve my life but I always feel like it has to be at the beginning of every month. That plan has never worked though. Now I'm coming up with reasons for why it can't even be at the beginning of certain months. I'm afraid I'll feel awkward and it will always be haunting me. I want to start as soon as possible but it's just so much easy to sit around and do nothing. I can't get motivated to do what I know I should do so I just come up with excuses to do nothing. It's been this way for years and I'm afraid it will never end. Any advice please?
I know what you're going through, all I can tell you is to start off small. Take something routine and just do it a little differently. Change one tiny tiny thing like the order you fix your hair/brush your teeth in the morning or what order you put on your clothes, changing the dominant hand you use to steer your car, when you take your lunch breaks etc... Once you discover that you CAN make these small changes you can start making other changes. Changes lead to more changes and before you know it you would have changed alot about yourself because you would have shown yourself that it's not impossible. Just start slowly with baby steps and gradually change a few small things and lead up to the bigger ones. Remember to take it gentle on yourself and not beat yourself up. Habits are formed after a long period of time and will take more time to change and adopt new habits. If you decide on changing yourself dramatically and quickly you'll find yourself failing most likely thus making you more discouraged to try it again later. Kinda like quiting a long addiction cold turkey. For some people it works but for most not a good idea. Good luck.