My OCD is bad right now. Sometimes I am good, somtimes bad, but the thougts are always here.
Are there many people who suffer from thougts about their relationship.
I worry constantly. I worry and can not stop.
- do i love him -
- do i really love him -
- do i talk enough to him -
- do we have enough sex -
- do i think about him enoug -
- is it normal, that you are not in love forever -
- is it normal, that you wanna spend some time on yourself -
oh hell. it drives me mad. i want to leave my b/f every day 1000times. and the worst thing: maybe everthing is true.
I have these same thoughts and as you know i have written about them before. they come and they go but when they come its so bad, i cant enjoy anything. i get to the point where i feel as if i am being unfair to my bf and that we should just break up. please, same stuff. any sugguestions? hang in ther.
hi yep i can relate to some of the stuff u were sayin. i get scared to tell my bf that i love him cause my ocd tells me that i dont and it drives me crazy. i always feel guilty as well as i make him wash his hands all the time and so sometimes i think it would b better off if we split up but he tells me that he loves me and he just takes me for who i am, which is very hard to belive as i can b a real pain wen it comes to my ocd.
I am glad, that you answered me and that I am not alone with all that - do you often feel, like you destroy your relationship right because oft these thougts?
I feel like this. oh god. I wish I could stop this. But it is impossible. I am afraid to see him sometimes. I ... want a perfect relationship - maybe right this is the problem -> wishing someting perfect, because NOTHING is perfect!
Do you do therapy or anything?
I would be glad to discuss with you more (sorry... my english is a bit bad)
its hard to seperate... see, i thought the same things with my ex... but we really werent meant to be so i dont think it was an OCD thing... the problem is, at the time i thought it was so i would cut her a lot of slack...
dont be afraid... my point was, because i have OCD i question everything... meaning i really wasnt happy, but i kept saying "is this real? am i really not happy? am i being too hard on her??" fact is though, the love just wasnt there...
the "issue" was, i try to make everything an OCD thing... but often times feelings can be much more instinctual than trying to deduce them through OCD...
you very well may have relationship OCD... i didnt... thats all im saying... dont stress...
I have EXACTLY the same thing!!! It started 5 yrs ago after a bout of post partum depression. Before that, NO PROBLEM! We have a great marriage (13 yrs) and the LAST thing I want to do is leave, but OCD makes me doubt this. I am going thru an OCD spell right now with those thoughts. This is about the 10th time I've dealt with this in the past 5 years. IT comes on very strong, then goes away like nothing ever happened, but I suffer TREMENDOUSLY while the episode is taking place. Have you tried CBT and meds? I am changing mine to Effexor because my Celexa is pooping out after 4 years. Good Luck and Hang in there. Don't make any decisions when you are going thru an "episode".
I am glad I am not the only one that thinks like this. I have done this before (3 times) this the 4th now. I have been agonizing over this a week now 2 sleepness nights and the constant worry that i will lose my wife because I don't think I love her. That I am some bad person and if I keep thinking this it must be true. Then I think if I didn't love her why would I worry it comes and goes most of the time I can shake it off but then like now it consumes me fully, cannot eat, sleep panick attacks anxiety. I need someones reassurance that it gets better with time. My wife and I have a good marriage when I am not having an episode