I have recently found out that a dear friend of mine has ocd....I knew something was odd for a while as he always seemed to keep me at arms length - what I thought was very "moody"
He has carried this burden, alone, with him for two whole years, finally he has come out and told someone other than a counsellor. I want to be there for him, I want to help anyway I can to carry the weight that has consumed him for far too long. How do I do this?? I have heard that reassurance can be a waste of time and sometimes even detrimental!
Although he hasn't been officially diagnosed, he has the pure-o type....intrusive thoughts about homosexuality and the other one is harming a small child. He is forever questioning himself, and at times believes that he should just give into it...that he must be homosexual. He says that he can recall the exact moment when his episodes began - 2 years ago shorlty after the loss of a loved one.
Does anyone know how I can help, is there any suggested reading, therapy or a specialist in NSW, Australia. He is such a beautiful person who is entrapped by this horrible, horrible condition.
Can he post on this board? Maybe he could tell you everything and you can write it-(if he lives in a different area and cant acess a computer). I think one very important step is getting out all your thoughts and feelings of OCD and laying them all out on the table. Because you cant learn to fight them properly without clearly seeing them. Kind of a weird analogy but with fear. "If there was a spider or bug in your room that you were afraid of you wouldnt turn off the lights and then try to go kill it." right? because you couldnt see it and where you were hitting. Same with OCD getting it all out and then tackling things one at a time is very helpful. If he can post i would be glad to help him.