hey i just wanted to say it feels good not to be alone in this as i suffer from this big time! I am always invited out yet i never go out unless i think i look amazing. Its some weird thing about always wanting to look the best get the most attention etc... I am on 80 of prozac and exercise work out reg so that does help but i still dread avoid leaving the house its so crazy and i think you guys are the only ones who could understand it! My medication and exercise stop the depression and the anxious feeling u get and help me forget about my imperfections. I think CBT can help us big time.
FOr example we gota realize that no one is perfect and as much as wed like to be the more we worry about it the further off we are to becomming it. I say best thing is to change lifestyle eat more health exercise take ur meds and work up the courage to get ready and FORCE yourself out the door next time someone invites u! For me its kinda sad because ive been invited out so many damn times that i think people just kinda gave up asking me out or forget. I am tryinjg to start all over next time someone asks me out as long as its not today LOL I promised that i will do my best to make it!
I am hoping the more we do this the better this problem will become. Like you guys it seems like such a pain to go out and so much easier staying home in the comfort of hour home and computer where no one can see us. But the really sad thing is i think if we keep it up we will end up being very loanly
The type of cbt distorted thoughts related to this are
All or nothing- we think just cause we are not PERFECT we should not present ourselves to society.
Discontinuing the posative- I am a very attractive person get a decent amount of attention yet i am totally dismissing it and not wanting to leave because im not perfect.
Last thing is i use to depend on drinking most of my life to help me in social situations well that did NOTHING but turn me into an alcholic so now i am going to try it with NO booze. I have to admit tho deep down inside im hoping no one asks me out for a while so i have more time to prepare lol
im 24 years old btw