is it the ocd? - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Message Board

bluewaterangel · 08-31-2005, 12:51 PM

Hello, I am 17 years old and I have never taken interest in boys. It has always been school, work and being miserable with my health. Is this normal for 17 year old girls sometimes, or could my OCD be playing a role in this. Please help me if you can.

Pfretzsch · 09-03-2005, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by bluewaterangel

Hello, I am 17 years old and I have never taken interest in boys. It has always been school, work and being miserable with my health. Is this normal for 17 year old girls sometimes, or could my OCD be playing a role in this. Please help me if you can.

It could be the drugs - are you on meds? Anafranil is notorious for making people not feeling like bothering with the opposite sex. Prozac also makes people content to be in a rut (and getting out and meeting the guys seems like too much of a bother). Also, perhaps you are concerned about your OCD interfering with a relationship - should you tell him? what will he think, etc?

It could be your OCD in the sense that having OCD is a great energy zapper and with school and life, boys can just seem too stressful. Are you involved in trying to pick out a college? You just may have a lot of things on your mind.

For now, don't worry a whole lot about it. Keep us posted. I am nearly 30 years older than you (oh my ****, I can't believe it), so I can tell you that life with OCD can still be a lot of fun.

Good luck!

GatsbyLuvr1920 · 09-03-2005, 08:54 PM

At last, I have found another teenage girl who has never had a relationship with a guy! Believe me, be happy that you're not having obsessions saying you're gay when you know that you're straight- I had these from age 12-14, and they really scared me because I KNEW I was straight from a very early age. I'm very much in support of gay rights and all, and if I was actually gay, then that would be me, but it scared me because I knew it wasn't true, and thus, the questions and obsessions began...

I just turned 18, and began my freshman year of college, and I sometimes feel like such an outcast because I haven't ever been kissed before, let alone have a boyfriend!

My one goal before the end of this year is to get a steady boyfriend who I deeply care about and love, and finally make out with him!

In all reality (and tell me if you feel the same way), I think that I have avoided ever getting close to a guy friend who might have become something more because I'm just so deathly afraid of all that could happen. I strongly believe in being a virgin until marriage for my own life (don't care what anyone else does- that's their personal choice), and I guess I'm just scared that some guy will take it too far, or even worse, date rape me or something- needless to say, this fear has increased since college began, and let's just say, that I haven't been anywhere near a frat party!

As a true obsessive-compulsive, I hate change, and I think part of me is afraid to break my "perfect" record: I'm a virgin in every sense of the word- not just sexually, but also in the areas of cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs- and I don't want to spoil that because then God will punish me for not being "perfect." I would never smoke, drink, do drugs, or have sex anyway, but just the thought of being around it makes me feel guilty/shameful, and I'd have to run and confess to my mother...

I blame this on my sexual obsessions of the past and blasphemous/scrupulosity obsessions of the present. But, don't get me wrong- I have lots of crushes on hott guys (Leo DiCaprio is #1, even more so now that he played an OCD character in "The Aviator"!

), and I really wish that I could have a hott, intelligent, honest, funny boyfriend who truly cared about me. I'm guessing it won't happen this year, either- I have my academics to focus on, I don't trust frat boys (which most all of them are), and I have too high standards and expectations for both myself and my "perfect" boyfriend... Damn you, OCD! You even interfere with me falling in love!

Write back soon if you ever want to vent- I know how hard it can be, and how much of an outcast you can feel, especially when people start to think you're a lesbian because you've never dated, further feeding into the obsessions... God bless!

-GatsbyLuvr1920-

bluewaterangel · 09-06-2005, 09:16 AM

Thank you two so much!!! Both of you are right...I am deathly afraid of change, and of what a boyfriend will think of me if I told him I had ocd. I am also a virgin and am also scared of something awful happening and me losing my innocence. Another thing is if there is a break up, my life would not be the OCD called "perfect". The weird thing is is that I want a boyfriend, but am scared of everything that could go wrong. And maybe part of it is the meds, I am on Geodon and Lexapro, do these cause this symptom? And also, with my whole life so busy (My poor health with OCD, Irritable bowel, and endometriosis), school and bundles of homework, family issues and work boys just seem way to overwhelming right now. Hope to hear back from you two, thanks again.

Pfretzsch · 09-06-2005, 01:02 PM

Lexapro is NOT notorious for causing lack of desire, in fact, many(?) people find that life is pretty normal regarding desire. I am not familiar with the other drug you are taking. Endometriosis and IBS can be very stressful.

You sound like a busy person occupied with the normal kinds of things that people are concerned about. Are you a senior in high school? That alone is a stressful event.

Pat