Thanks for the input.
Yes, we were just friends, but the reason we had this falling out was b/c he said he wanted a realationship with me. He was tired of playing the field. He said he wanted to go slowly b/c he wanted this to work out. All his relationships ended after a few months. After this encounter, I didn't hear from him for nearly 2 weeks. I asked him what was up and he confessed that he didn't mean what he said. During those 2 weeks, I think he either met another gal or he talked with his parents and they said no. He did tell me (when he told me he wanted a relationship )that his mother told him "stick with your own kind!" We're not of the same race.
He did meet my husband at our reunion. I was actually invited to his wedding some 10 years ago. (very close friends and family were invited. Our mutual friend wasn't invited. I was very honored that he thought our friendship was that close) I didn't go b/c it hurt me so much that he loved someone else and was marring her and not me.
My husband knows that I loved him and about this falling out. But doesn't know that I've been thinking about him these days. I feel so bad. I feel like I'm cheating on DH, I would kill myself first before I do anything like that.
I guess I just want to clear things up, even though it'll be about 11 years late. I want him to know I bear no hard feeling towards him (anymore) and I wish him the best. I would love to hear about what he's been up to. I'm not a home-wrecker, in fact I found out he just had a baby. I want to celebrate with him. We live in neighboring towns, so it's not likely we'll bump into each other.
I guess my question would be, do you think 2 people of the opposite sex could remain friends, even though we're both married? I guess it would be the spouse's decision.
Any input would be appreciated. Even if it's "Get over it! Move on! "
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