Okay. I have been on this computer researching since 10:30 p.m. and think I am on to something. For the past four years my child has been suffering from some very strange thoughts. She dreams of my husband and I dying. She thinks bad thoughts about God. Once she gets them in her mind, she can't get them out very easily. I try to talk to her to calm her down, but an hour later she'll ask, "Are you sure that you aren't going to die tonight?" or something like that. It's very bizarre, but I am concerned that she needs some help. We have been to the doctor about it and he recommended that she get help from a psychiatrist. She is very sensitive about this and doesn't want to go. She is worried (and obsesses about that too) that "something is wrong with her!". Is there anyone with OCD or Pure Obsession that has similar feelings? She is almost 11 years old and I don't want her to continue to suffer.
me! .. and lots of others too, i'am 17 and messing around such things since 12 or 13 .. and ya its really hard , specially when you don't know 'whats' wrong with you. I came to know after 6 years that i have this disorder O-C-D, till that my life was a living hell specially when i was in that freaky trap.. luckly maybe my ocd is just mild but yet the best way i find to get out this mess is to stop thinking those at all .. and such .. currently i'am out from it , and maybe continue to do few more steps to get out of it , completly! .. ignoring stuff is the best policy!
I don't know much about OCD, but it certainly sounds like it could be some form of it. I suffered similiarly when I was her age, but it seemed to fade as I got older. Over the years it had revisited - I obsess over lots of things, including worrying about my family members (For instance, I worry they will get in carwrecks, etc.) Since I was a child I've had this nagging fear my dad was going to have a heart attack. For no particular reason, just a fear I've always obsessed about.
The fact that she's had this for so long is definitely a red flag. If there were something I'd wished I'd done more when I was younger was TALK about it. Because, it seriously helps a LOT. My advice would be to tell her - tell her everyday - that she can talk to you about anything. I would encourage conversation, too. My parents never did that, and so I felt uncomfortable talking about this constant thoughts of worry...and felt the need to keep it inside.
I think the more she is open about it, it won't fester inside and get worse. Which means, she could grow out of it. I wish you (and her!) the best of luck. It is certainly not pleasant to feel consumed like that.
OMG YES!!! Im 17 and ive always had this. its great u have noticed it and that she talks to u about it-i have never said nething about my thoughts(im not diagnosed tho-i never ever bring it up).
i remember wen i was very young dreaming all the time about my family dying, being in car crashes, drowning, being in fires, being crushed to death and also my brother was always kidnapped and tortured. i wud lie awake crying, it was actually as if i was greiving. the obbsession wud take hold and id be up all nite thinking they were going to die, what if they did, what if they went there in the morning.i entered a whole different world were i was in foster care and was alone, i actually began to feel these feelings until morning.
its hard to get these things out of ur head, as i got older the fear is still there but ive rationalised a bit more with it. i dont dream that much about these things, but i do get intrusive thoughts of gory images with my family in it. i am protective of them, to protective and bossy at times. i dont let my brother near water or walk on the outside of the foot path either. wen they go sumwere and r late back i imagaine theyve crashed and can see it all in my head. its not nice.
i think u shud be open to ur daughters thoughts, the important thing is not to allienate her by saying too her that they are weird, dont look shocked or she'll feel there is reason to be and that sumthing is wrong with her, i know its hard not to be but just try and prepare urself for her symptoms, remember its not her choice. y not research it in the net , find out everything u can and then decide what to do. however i do think u shud check her out at ur doctor, they can help and it mite not be so scary. i no u said she doesnt want to see sum1, but with ur support she may eventually come round. good luck hope i helped xox.
I'm a pure obsessional (I'm almost 19), and though I've always had obsessive-compulsive symptoms and I had checking/confessing obsessions/compulsions at age 4 and 7, my true symptoms started around 11, spiked at age 12, spiked again at age 15 (when I started Zoloft), but I didn't officially get diagnosed with OCD until I was 17, after I had already diagnosed myself from the research I did on the Internet. You're very lucky that you are aware that the bizarre thoughts that your daughter is experiencing are pure obsessional in nature. My mother and I didn't understand what they were, and every time I'd have to confess, our relationship would be strained, but thankfully, she gets it now, and we are still as close as ever. I never really had any straight "Are you going to die?" obsessions. Rather, if I have an obsession about one of my family members dying, my intrusive thought will take the form of "I hope my mom dies," or seeing myself stab one of my family members, which I think is considerably worse because then you have to worry that you're "evil." I have mainly blasphemous, sexual, and violent (including the death ones) obsessions, and this is why my main compulsion is praying/crossing myself to counteract it. Good luck, God bless, and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
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