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FroBoyPeaceGuy · 06-08-2006, 03:15 PM

Hello All

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I am writing this in concern of my wife who has suffered from OCD since she was around 11-12 (she's 24 now). I have been thru a whole lot with her, good days, bad days, wierd days, and some down right scary days. We've been married since last Oct., and I have been w/ her for bout 3, 3 1/2 years now. She is currently seeing a Behavior Therapist who is helping her alot, but there is some times she gets into these moods where her depression kicks in (usually starting after the scrupulosity runs its course) and hurting herself badly thru cutting and sometimes suicide comes thru her mind. I have helped her out of cutting part thru pacts her and I made since we've been married. She had a point where the Scrupulosity was in minor mode and she was happy on life, but her having issues going on on her side of the family really have brought her out of this happiness.

Scrupulosity has really taken a major toll on her. She tells me her heart is torn sometimes between wanting to die, and spending the rest of her life w/ me. I have helped her thru the darkest of her times, even getting her away from ppl of her past who hurt her deeply. She knows I will be her backbone till the end of time and my love for her is unconditional, nothing will ever change that. I'm looking for those who either currently have Scrupulosity, or those who have overcame it, and have gotten stronger to give me some suggestions on what steps I could take to help my wife. I have read from this website for a while now and I have to say that the people who help others here are personally God sent.

I have faith that someone will read this and guide not only me thru this trial, but my wife. God Bless Y'all!!!!

FroBoyPeaceGuy

jen_thomson · 06-09-2006, 07:53 AM

It's possible your wife is having to deal with more than one disorder. A behavior therapist is a wonderful tool, and a great start, but your wife might need more than that. You might want to consider asking the therapist for the name of a good psychiatrist. I've dealt with ocd (including scrupulosity and cutting) for thirty years now, and have benefited greatley from using my meds, a therapist and a psychiatrist. There are still ups and downs, but nothing like it used to be. I think one of the reasons for that is that over time, I've learned to take personal responsibility for my actions, even my thoughts. I can't stop the OCD, but it is my responsibility to learn to live with it if I want to live a happy life. It sounds like you love your wife very much, and it's wonderful of you to provide her with so much support. Be careful that you don't fall into the trap of being her "savior". It will only do more harm than good in the end. Help her find the right treatment, and to learn her triggers, watch her stress points. I think it's great that you are doing all you can to help her. I wish both of you the best-

Nicci57 · 06-13-2006, 11:36 PM

I suffered from this for quite a while when I was a kid. I remember getting thoughts like F*** God over and over in my head, and of course things like that make you feel like a terrible person. I attempted everything to stop the thoughts, but absolutely nothing seemed to work. It might seem contradictive, but the best thing to stop these thoughts is to just stop fighting against them. Just allow them to flow and all the while telling yourself that they are just thoughts and such a powerful God would know that. The key is to stop questioning why you get them and to quit blaming yourself for them. Just accept them as they are... thoughts. I know this sounds probably a lot easier said than done, but it's the only thing that worked for me. I've read about therapists training patients in a similar way, and hopefully her therapist knows about this method and is helping her with it. Good luck!!