Dating and scared!!! - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Message Board

cyberfrank12 · 06-28-2006, 10:12 AM

I don't know how many of you have experienced this, but hearing from you guys would help. I have been dating a girl for two months now, and I fell in love with her. A couple of weeks ago we found out that her ex-husband never signed the divorce papers. Well she quickly filed for divorce and it has gone through. However I believe that set my OCD off, and I've been doubting so many things in our relationship, and scariest of all is my love for her. I feel great when I'm with her, but when I wake up in the mornings I'm full of panic and doubt, and I get so scared and nervous hoping these feelings aren't true and hoping they will go away. I don't want to lose her! Does anyone have an experience close to this?

Thanks guys

steveo23 · 06-28-2006, 10:35 AM

Cyberfrank

Hey man, yes, I had a similar experience with my ex lady. Rest assured, those fears and thoughts arent true, it sounds very much like our mutual friend OCD giving you a rough time. Dont give in to the thoughts. After all, it sounds like you are happy in the relationship... otherwise why would you be wishing that the thoughts werent true?

Its likely that something like getting the divorce papers through did spark off this OCD bout. It can be real sensitive to even the smallest events in life, and true to form, seems to strike at the worst possible time. OCD may be playing on the natural anxiety that we all get when we are with somebody.

Sometimes this is termed as ROCD (relationship OCD). Its quite common. Hopefully it will pass for you soon.

MizGarrett · 06-28-2006, 11:44 AM

Frank, I hope things have improved since the original post. Good luck to you!

lovenjudy · 07-10-2006, 04:12 PM

I'm dating someone who has OCD, I am divorced (happily divorced), but for some reason this is still an issue with my boyfriend. I try to comfort him and re-assure him that he is the only one for me, but he gets stuck on the issue. He is also in the process of being divorced, his marriage failed because of OCD. We argue about other small things that I feel are triggered by the OCD. He has gone to therapy (twice) and has taken medicine but is not consistent with this. We decided to take a brake from the relationship so that he can work on this issue, he knows that he needs to get help, but I am not sure how serious he is about doing this. I love him dearly and would hate to loose him to this "OCD"! What do you guys reccomend I do? I've tried to stay away so that he doesn't get pressure from me, but I don't know for how long I can do this............hope to hear from you guys

cyberfrank12 · 07-12-2006, 12:04 PM

Judy, I know it is hard, and I am happy to say that I have someone as devoted to me as you are to him. This can weigh heavily on both of you, and I'm sorry for the pain it's caused. OCD can also be renamed the "doubting disease" which is the form that I have it in and is found that consistent doubting is the most common form of OCD. If this is sort of what you are going through than a good site with some good articles by Dr. Phillipson about relationship substantiation. Read over those and suggest those to him and let me know how it goes. I'm pulling for you guys!