nance898

I met a man over the iternet 8 months ago. I am 52 and very intelligent. In al my life I never met a man so intelligent before. He also was extremely caring, generous ( bought me a car, etc) Very understanding, intutive, so special a person,m we made an unbelievable connection. but in all these months he never touched me. he todl me from beginning that he was very patient about sex. i thought that was admirable. after 7 months of not even a kiss i wondered, asked if h e was gay, no he assured me. married, no again.
He told me he had panic attacks and have to run, , i saw him have them from traffic, etc. said he could never go on a plane. ok. one day at a restaurant he said dont sit at that table, it is dirty., well it only had a drop of water on it. he told me he cant hardly go anywhere anymore. only places that are asteciatelly correct. getting harder to go to work, etc. stays on computer all the time.
he was abused when he was a child.
then 4 weeks ago, i said why do you call me " your friend" after 7 months, he started to have a panic attack and i said "well just go if your not going to allow me to touch or love you anyway." and he hasnt called since. i talked to doctors and ocd groups, they said he has ocd. he wont return my calls. im worried for him and miss him so very much, no one understands me like him.
i dont know how to help him, can somerone help me? he is sole caregiver of his elderly, dependant mother.