Therapist question - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Message Board

seaturtle · 08-23-2007, 08:06 PM

Hi, everyone,

I've a question about a T I've been seeing for about a year. She's an ED specialist, also deals w/OCD.

I've actually lost weight, and am distressed. The most help I get is from medications. Well, the last time I saw her she talked about "self-soothing" and how she wants to re-parent me and have me depend on her for "unconditional love", then learn to internalize that.

I am old enough to be her mother, yikes.

Then she went on about having me call her message machine "just to hear her voice to be reassured she was there." And offered to give me a picture of herself to take home to look at when I feel bad.

This all seems nuts to me. Is it just me - have others been through this kind of thing, and I am just not seeing something here?

Thanks for the responses. As I write it, it all seems a bit absurd.

Seaturtle

purplegirl1 · 08-23-2007, 10:13 PM

SeaTurtle -
Oh gosh... It is not you!!! She sounds like she needs the therapy....lol

I think you need a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for the OCD... some therapists work with diff. theories.. and it sounds like she is using the wrong one!!! Is she a Social Worker or Psychologist?

seaturtle · 08-23-2007, 11:32 PM

Hi, purplegirl,

Thank you. She is a PsyD, actually. I think her theory is that people with trauma issues and eating disorders and everything else missed a developmental stage when kids learn to trust (this is what she told me), and that once the ability to trust is learned, recovery happens.

Hmmmmm.

She's very nice, and I am sure she means only the best, but I think you're right. It's hard to get away from her; I've talked about leaving, but she always interprets that as "resistance." Sigh.

I'll see her tomorrow and try again.
How are you doing? Let me know.

Seaturtle

mandcmv · 08-24-2007, 09:48 AM

seaturtle.

Sounds odd to me, and I'm pretty open minded. This type of therapy may work for some but from reading your posts and understanding a little bit about where you're coming from, I don't see this type being right thing.
But it may be. Always good to give it a few chances. Also, in the past I have seen a few therapists that "just didn't feel right." Simple as that, can't explain. I gave them a few appts and moved on until I found someone I was comfortable with.
Being comfortable and having confidence in your therapist is everything.

Best wishes and keep us posted.

M

seriousperson · 08-24-2007, 10:29 PM

I agree with everything mandcmv said.
I had a therapist for about a year who I never felt quite right with. When my employer changed health insurance companies and she was no longer "in network," I was kind of relieved to have an excuse to get a new therapist.
The one I've had for the past two years has some issues too (he has narcolepsy), but at least he's not out on some hippy-type therapy about inner child and all that.

seaturtle, Maybe ask yourself whether you really want to get away from this therapist.