Stress can really trigger and escalate OCD. Relationships can be very stressful, even without OCD. I haven't been in a serious relationship in nearly 3 years and it scares the crap out of me that I wont be able to agian. Likely because I don't know whether I will ever be able to control my OCD anxiety, and it depresses me all the time.
too have OCD - I am 30 years old, Married for a little over 3 years to the most wonderful guy. Let me tell you, I was diagnosed with OCD in college (I went upstate to Oneonta, NY). I was about 19 or 20 when diagnosed. I had a boyfriend at the time who lived in Maryland and he didn't go to school with me.. long distance relationship, met thru friends. Anyway, I started to have doubts, obsessions if I really loved him, and if I did, how do I know...what if I don't, etc.. we were dating about 8 months at the time. I would soon then obsess that I "cheated" on him...always just obsessing if I kissed someone else, never anything more than that, it was a weird obsessiong.. it was such a spiral and became such an obsession that I just had a hard time in the relationship.. we were together 3 years, broke up for other reasons, i was 22 i think (he treated me like crap and fed off of my OCD), then I was single (and obsessed that I would NEVER get married, oh my god was that an obsession, lol etc...) I was single for like 1 1/2 years in between before I met my husband. If i hooked up with a guy or dated a guy I would start to obsess - what if they dont' call me, what if they don't like me, what if I have HIV/AIDS or if they do... my god, the list goes on and on and on..- I was 24 when I met my husband, (in a bar no less) lol... we dated, had fun, but....I would obsess "what if kissed someone else" the stupid same old cheating obsession carried from the boyfriend in college, to the guys I dated, to then him.....to then my husband - boyfriend at the time. That stupid obsession was with me FOREVER, tranferred onto to everyone!!!!!!
We got married, still obsessed on the cheating thing... and did for most of our marriage so far, until recently - last year it ended, with lots and lots of therapy and my meds...let me tell you, unfortunately OCD is a part of your life, and You have to learn how to handle it or deal with it I guess...It took me finding a great therapist, staying on Luvox and my wonderful supportive husband. He went to my therapist with me to learn how i think and the correct way to respond to me, as not to make things worse.
do you go for therapy? on meds?
Let me tell u this - OCD will find its way back if you let it, I obsess over Money, having kids, a house... etc... but I have learned how to try to stop the obsessions... it is very very very hard!!!! I hear you and you are NOT alone!
hELLO. I am an ROCD sufferer. I have had very good days until today, yesterday i had a small and stupid fight with my wife. We fixed all before sleeping but i had nightmares about it, and today I am quite in OCD mood, thats how OCD works.
OCd makes me think my relationship wont work, that we dont get along, but the real is that a good relationship can be damaged for OCD, so it must be defeated with the effort of both partners.-
Like any other illness you should fight against it, so you can move on and complete your life.
Hello tutu1244!!! I have the same feeling you do have. In my case, normally i go up and down with my wife mood, so if she wakes up a little sad or quiet i begin to obsess, if she is very affectionate and nice i stop obsessing and get a good mood. When she is not with me and if i am in ocd mood, mostly i begin to obsess and become sad or anxious. So I dont know what to do, sometimes i have control of my situation and can have very good days, maybe one or two weeks, somedays i am out of control.
OCD makes a special of trap and you feel you dont have any scape.
Most of the time i feel the happiness with my wife, but ocd has made me a very sensitive person and if she has some rude answer or something i begin to obsess. When i think maybe our relationship has problems or i should finish it because i feel bad, man!!! i feel much worse!!! so sad almost to cry!!!
The real solution is to find help, and a good one with an ocd specialist and i am so scare to do it, i am so scare to find someone that could mix everything!!!