Well, it just never ends does it? I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now. I agree that stress can make OCD worse.
And, it is all so simple
..... I have to wash my pepsi can before I can drink the pepsi (NOT from the can). So, go to kitchen, wash my hands, get out pepsi can, rinse it with hot water, wash my hands because I have touched the pepsi can, wash the pepsi can, then wash my hands, just in case there are cooties still on my hands from the pepsi can. BUT THEN..... going around in my OCD brain..... well, if there may have still been cooties on my hands from the can, then, I must need to wash the can again. AAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHH. BUT, I DO NOT. I will not
let myself go there.
Isn't it just nutz?
I was actually thrilled though, to see that in your post, you were worried about making your cats sick. I have the same thing. Do you wash your hands before you fix their food? I sure do. BUT, I bet you don't wash after you have handled your cats, do you? Aren't we silly people?
I hope that this does not upset you. I am definitely not
laughing at you, but with you, I hope. I mean, I hope you are laughing.
Okie ***ie........... I'm gonna give you a possible solution to your hand/soap situation. IF, you cannot step away from this "new - is there soap under my nails" problem, then, you can get a fingernail brush. I hope you know what I mean by fingernail brush. People keep them at their sinks to wash under their nails..... they usually have a little handle that fits around your knuckles. Anyway, instead of using that for washing, use it for rinsing under your nails. See if that helps. But, as many people have said on here, try very hard NOT to give in to "new" OCD things. Like Barney Fife says, "Nip it. Nip it in the bud".
I sure hope that things get better for you soon, and that the stress that is ongoing in your life, goes away!