Hubby testing my OCD? - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Message Board

CatGirl1975 · 12-29-2007, 08:40 AM

This may sound strange, but I believe my husband is testing my OCD..I started reading a book about OCD..I was reading it in front of him, he never said a word about it..The next evening we were out and about and needed gas..My husband is a big diet pop drinker so my daughter and I went in to get us all something to drink while he pumped gas..He asked me to take the empty pop can in that he drank (can deposit in our state). I said no, leave it in the car. He acutally got upset with me about it..I snapped back and so NO, leave it! Once back in the car going home he was very quiet. I asked why and he asked, "why was it a big deal to take the can into the store"? I told him that I "only take pop cans back to meijers, that I have a system for it".(which is true, the cans go to the store where I grocery shop) Anyways, he gave me an odd look and once we were home in the drive way, he said "hey hun, watch this", then tossed that stupid can in the trash bin. I was not a happy camper! It really made me upset. My first thought was to go in the trash bin and dig it out..It doesn't belong there. But my fear of germs stopped me. But I know that I will have to put on gloves and get it out before trash day. It bothers me that much..

He also saw me washing my toothbrush with peroxide and the tootpaste tube before I brushed my teeth.. I was afraid that he would say something or take the peroxide bottle away from me, or worse, hide it..

I dunno..Maybe he was testing me, trying to see what my reaction would be, or maybe just goofing around..It just made me feel very insecure..Silly that a pop can and what store it goes back too could cause a little tiff between us and me anxiety...

dksea · 12-29-2007, 12:02 PM

I think it can be hard for non-OCD people to understand that you just can't STOP doing it with willpower so easily. Maybe he thinks he's trying to help by breaking your compulsions. Maybe in the right situation thats the right approach, but it would be helpful if it were in concert with a therapist. Maybe he's just frustrated, i know that my mom, who loves me and is very supportive, just sometimes gets frustrated and has to snap me back into reality because i'll ruminate too much. I wouldn't read too much into it unless it becomes a longer term habit.

CatGirl1975 · 01-05-2008, 11:48 AM

I am convinced that my husband is watching me with a more watchful eye now..Kinda makes me feel self conscience but I have no control over the things I have to do..

My daughter had two friends spend the night for her birthday last night. Her two Grandmothers were here for the small party we had, along with my husband and son. These type of ordeals keep me on edge. I picked up four pizzas and a few two liters of pop. I like the pizza boxes stacked in twos and the pop liter labels facing forward. I did fuss with them till they were all lined up perfectly. And I made sure everytime somebody opened a pizza box, I was right there to close it up the right way..My husband watched me the whole time..I knew he was, but I ignored him and kept doing what I thought was important..After a few, he just said I was funny..Nothing else. Anyways, this is all new to him, guess he is just trying to observe me..Thats fine, as long as he doesn't say anything hurtful or try to stop my rituals..

purplegirl1 · 01-05-2008, 07:48 PM

I hear ya....but apparently your husband loves you!!!! Try to let him take time to adjust to your OCD....