okay ~ so i have been with my bf for a while now (a few yrs), we live together, and i have a school-age child.
he was never so obsessive about germs and microbes...but over the course of the past 2 yrs his "concerns" and "conciousness" (as he likes to refer to it as) has grown, and to a degree, that i, honestly, am worried.
our social life has suffered, we dont go out to eat as much (hardy ever!) ~ if a person within hearing distance oughs or sneezes he gets visibly ANGRY...not concerned...but ******. I mean, we have left rest.'s because of this. (and then he gets mad at ME for not noticing and/or getting as angry as him!)
i dont cook anymore, because he found all these non-chalant round-about ways to get out of eating food that i had prepared...do to my "less than aseptic" cooking ways....meanwhile i find that i am an above average sanitary cook (always have been) ~ according to him i leave a whole MEAL on a plate when i wash it....he will spend about 5 minutes washing 1 item...and will do it EVERY time we sit to for a bite. he will rewash ANYthing that i have washed , always.
i have a child in the house....who has allergies, and will get sick from time to time..i cant even begin to describe what this has been like....he expects that i quaratine him on account of "thats what quaratines were thought up for" ~
the list goes on. i dont know what to do!!! i know a lot of ppl's response will be to rid myself of him...but ppl lets face it...there is a list of pros too ~ i am more curious to know what other's who have faced this feel like, and how i can address this....
believe me, this has not been an unaddressed issue, and he knows how i feel ~ but he cant help it....AND he justifies all of it. how do you argue the point that, "yes, you should allow yourself the risk of getting sick" to him, nothing is worth getting sick over.....
im very sad...mad...and confused ~