cant stop ocding about something really stupid - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Message Board

sh 08 · 06-25-2008, 01:01 AM

my family and i,hubby 4 teen kids went out for dinner tonight my daughter ordered a kids meal that came with 3 mini icecream cones and when they brought them out she offered the kids a cone each but being there was only 3...well u know...anyways my son who is my buddy big time went to go get one and then stopped and said no no its ok theyre hers and just as she started to say no really go ahead take one,my other son grabbed it before him...my son, the one that said no,put his hand down just after my other son grabbed it...so my son just sat back watching them eat it and i felt horrible for him! i dont know why then the other son says u snooze u loose which ticked me off but i felt bad cause my son had taken the time to consider they werent his in the first place and then went without...so i told him we will stop at the store and i will buy him whatever kind of icecream he wants or a slurpee,which i did he came in and picked his fav out...all i can do is think of the look on his face when the others grabbed one and because he put his hand down too late and the other son grabbed it he was left out not enjoying what the others had...this is silly and i dont know why i am obsessing over it! but when i think about it i feel horrible for him! i mean of all the things to feel bad about i picked this?!!!i havent thought of anything else tonight other than the shear dissapointment on his face even though he ended up getting the good end of the deal....why!!!???!!

purplegirl1 · 06-27-2008, 10:01 PM

HI,

Ya know it is very interesting that you write this, b/c I am the same way. I do not have children, although married...hopefully we will start to have kids soon. I have this HORRIBLE obsession when I see people eating alone or around food...I feel sad, and depressed about it...I just want to cry or sit w/ the person, etc...

I assume you have OCD? I do and I know that if that was me, I would be feeling the same way you did/do.

I think it is the OCD that is making it linger. I bet your son was fine all night, and the next day, etc..and it bothered you sooooo much more than it bothered him? right?

I think you may have also felt bad (which is really non ocd reason) b/c he is your son, your buddy, and you love him sooo much that I did not want to see him get "hurt".

Question - Is this something that you would have been very sad about as a kid??

marshmello · 07-01-2008, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by purplegirl1

HI,

I have this HORRIBLE obsession when I see people eating alone or around food...I feel sad, and depressed about it...I just want to cry or sit w/ the person, etc...

I guess I'll never understand the obsession about seeing someone eat alone. This reminds me of something a coworker said to me one day. She said "I felt sorry for you the other day". Naturally, I asked why. She said "because you were eating your lunch, ALONE in your car... I just felt so bad for you". Of course I was puzzled and shocked at her answer. Then I realized, she's the type of person who CAN'T be seen eating alone or is only comfortable while dining with others. I actually prefer to eat lunch alone. That's MY time. I explained to her that I was enjoying my lunch while listening to a daily radio talk show, besides, the weather was gorgeous!

I also told her that the only time she should feel sorry for me is if she sees me sitting on the ground in front of 7-11 with tattered clothing holding a sign that reads: PLEASE FEED THE NEEDY. That's when you worry. Not when I'm chowing down on a foot long!

purplegirl1 · 07-07-2008, 05:45 PM

Marshmello -

LOL...you just made me laugh!!! It is soooo true. My husband enjoys eating in his car, he will drive through fast food on his way home from work (he drives a truck and gets home late at night -10pm or 11pm,etc..) so it is just easier sometimes..I say no no bring it home and I will sit w/ you...he is like nah..easier to just grab it and eat it while I drive home,etc....I hate it...feel guilty, etc...he does this sometimes when he is early for work or after grocery shopping, etc....me...I can eat alone somewhere and it doesn't bother me but for some reason others it does and especially if I am close to them...(meaning friends or family close)....I guess I need to learn to trust what others tell me.....