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Old 07-17-2010, 04:54 AM   #1
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Question ROCD - How to Help your partner?

Hello All,

I have recently begun a relationship with a man i have known for around a year as a very good friend.
He is incredible, and i couldn't be more in Love with him.
However he has suffered with ROCD for around 25yrs, and each day, regularly his ROCD torments him, he suffers from every symptom...some days are better than others, sometimes he's on a high by but by the next day he has another Spike and he is again tormented, wishing for death if this cannot be cured, he desperately wishes to be 'Normal' and to know if his feelings are real or fake...he has terrible guilt and a great deal of fear...these symptoms are also physical with sweats, shakes and nerves.
I hate to see him in so much pain with these feelings, as i know him so well, and the ROCD, i understand him, these feelings an we talk them through with reassurance and support each day, when a spike comes along and somehow we get through the bad times he feels.
There is no pressure for him to 'Have' to feel anything at all in regards to our relationship, as much as he wants to.
He fears that i will run away from him, that he is a freak... And every day i reassure him that he couldn't be more wrong.
I'm prepared and i'm ready for the Good days and the bad.

But as a partner of an ROCD sufferer, is there anyone on here who can give, any hints or advice for how i may help him with the ROCD whilst being in a relationship with him?
Other people who are partners of ROCD sufferers or ROCD sufferers themselves that can say, what would help them from a partner?

 
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Old 07-22-2010, 12:28 PM   #2
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Re: ROCD - How to Help your partner?

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Originally Posted by partneroflove View Post
Hello All,

I have recently begun a relationship with a man i have known for around a year as a very good friend.
He is incredible, and i couldn't be more in Love with him.
However he has suffered with ROCD for around 25yrs, and each day, regularly his ROCD torments him, he suffers from every symptom...some days are better than others, sometimes he's on a high by but by the next day he has another Spike and he is again tormented, wishing for death if this cannot be cured, he desperately wishes to be 'Normal' and to know if his feelings are real or fake...he has terrible guilt and a great deal of fear...these symptoms are also physical with sweats, shakes and nerves.
I hate to see him in so much pain with these feelings, as i know him so well, and the ROCD, i understand him, these feelings an we talk them through with reassurance and support each day, when a spike comes along and somehow we get through the bad times he feels.
There is no pressure for him to 'Have' to feel anything at all in regards to our relationship, as much as he wants to.
He fears that i will run away from him, that he is a freak... And every day i reassure him that he couldn't be more wrong.
I'm prepared and i'm ready for the Good days and the bad.

But as a partner of an ROCD sufferer, is there anyone on here who can give, any hints or advice for how i may help him with the ROCD whilst being in a relationship with him?
Other people who are partners of ROCD sufferers or ROCD sufferers themselves that can say, what would help them from a partner?
It sounds like maybe he's having intrusive thoughts and also anxiety attacks?
Being supportive is really good but most likely he should be getting exposure therapy with his doctor. Maybe he will let you ask the doctor how you can help. Good luck!

 
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