Originally Posted by CrochetFerret
If you think your boyfriend wants his ex or you think he is going to cheat on you, if you verbalize these things you are going to push him right into his ex's arms or into the arms of another.
As far as wanting to pick other people's scabs the only word that describes that is disgusting and extremely UNhygienic.
On a forum where people are seeking help. This kind of reply is rude and uneducated. People looking for help do NOT need to be told they're disgusting & unhygienic.
Adelex - A lot of people pick. It can be associated with OCD but not always. It can also be associated with bi-polar & depression disorders. It differs from person to person. Your issues with your boyfriend tend to make me wonder if it's bi-polar. If you want to quit, and can't do it on your own, i.e. look up what others suggest to help stop - like behavioral therapy - find something else to do whenever you want to pick, you'll have to get in contact with a therapist. They'll be able to help, and if it's OCD or BP that's the main cause, they can help with that too and you'll be amazed and what life is like when you can get help with something that big & life altering.
Do you have any reason to think he'll cheat on you? Is he a decent boyfriend? Kind, loving & supportive? If not you may need to ditch him anyway. And if he is decent, try to voice any concerns to him without accusing him. Accusing is what's painful, saying flat out that you just don't trust him just isn't the way to go about it. But saying that you're scared he'll hurt you or that you'll say something stupid when it's unnecessary may cause him to reassure you and hopefully talk openly about why you are feeling that way. If he's in it for the long haul, he'll listen and hopefully try & calm your nerves. Otherwise you need someone that is willing to invest the time and effort you deserve.