Hi BeachMama, I know you posted this awhile ago--but noticed you did not get much of a reply.
I also had a very tense and rough childhood--started with my OCD back then, too.
Still have it. It is quite bad lately. When I was a kid, it was ridiculous.
So, I agree that if it starts early in life with all the anxiety and sadness it is certainly going to follow through to adulthood. I have shut the door and forgiven for past pain, but still am afflicted with the OCD and depression.
I just wanted to post and let you know that someone else out there is experiencing the same problems and you are not alone.
If you need to chat, I am here.