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Old 10-16-2011, 02:12 PM   #1
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anxiety is focusing on my relationship why :(

Hello im new here and was wondering if someone who has experienced this can really help me out please. i am 19(please because im young dont let it affect this post i a, very mature for my age).live with parents only a couple of friends because the others have really hurt me in the past.i believe i have anxiety that has clung around my relationship with my perfect boyfriend who i have been with for two years and dont know why,its killing me .

I met him at a friends house and i didnt find him hugely attractive but he was very nice and i wanted to interact with him we exchanged numbers and met i think four times and then we decided to make it official i was soo excited i remember letting out a little scream.anyway first 6 months were difficult but great ,sex was amassing and we fell in love within a month or two and the attraction towards him grew hes gawjuss.He enjoyed playing football with his mates so id sit there in any weather for hours and kind of feel abandoned and un loved,also i was always causing arguments thinking he was looking at other women and was worried when someone hot appeared on tv because he was looking at them always asked if he loved me or how much and would get worried if he wanted to do certain things with his friends,worried about him cheating.anyway 6-7 months in was on the way to his and when i got there just burst into tears and had sudden fear , anxiety , depression feeling and felt like my feelings had changed and doubt about him but for no reason atall everything was perfect.i cryed for 3 days straight and was at an all time low but he helped me alot through it my libdo suddenly vanished ,didnt want to see my friends , didnt want to be alive , didnt want to be near anyone or anything and had a sudden hatred for my dad as he had an affair when i was 14 all the feelings came back from that day and i didnt want anything to do with him.i saw a Councillor bit didnt really do much . ever since then i have had doubt after doubt and my gut goes weird and then i cry my eyes out . I wrote a list of all positive and negative things in my relationship and everything was positive :l so why is this targeting the way i feel in my relationship i went from thinking he didnt love me to me thinking i dont love him .

anyway its a year and a half on and the doubts are still there but im determined not to end this relationship for no reason and i wont find another man like him our relationship has actually got alot better but still doubts are there.And i dont really get the wanting sex fee-lining only sometimes .i have had so many doubts and weird thoughts about maybe i am ment to be a man or maybe im a lesbian and much more. I deeply want to be with this man for a long time i would love to get married to him and happily have his kids aswell .I have always been a worry-er and over thinking everything i get it from my mum but not to this extent.Also sex is a massive problem i dont feel like having it and cant get moist and i hate it i feel like crying

I also am scared 90% of the time since this all happened i always feel like im not alone and i feel like someone is watching me 24/7 and it scares the poo out of me, i feel like that feeling you get from watching a scary movie but all the time . i cant have a shower or bath without anyone being upstairs , i dont up stairs on my own, i dont use mirrors , i have to have things put in my ears when i sleep incase i hear someone whisper , the door has to be open when i go to bed and i get so many scary un wanted thoughts sometimes im too scared to get out of bed or move from room to room .

so its not just my relationship it was my father and this too can someone please help me . thankyou .

 
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Old 10-16-2011, 03:25 PM   #2
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Re: anxiety is focusing on my relationship why :(

Sarah, it sounds to me like you may have OCD or another disorder. I would highly recommend going to your doctor to get some type of medication, or go to a psychiatrist to help you deal with your feelings. But you did say that you went to therapy before and it didn't work. My advice would be medication AND therapy, if you can. If you don't want the therapy, medication is great for handling this. I have had the same feelings about my father too, because he was always running around on my mom when I was a young girl, and that can cause some deep rooted problems that you have to come to terms with and deal with head on. It will, most definately, affect your view of men in general, and cause you to have trouble trusting ANY man, no matter how wonderful he is, because you always have in the back of your mind what your father did to your mother. You have to realize that your boyfriend is NOT your father, not all men are like that. I really hope you go get yourself some help for this, you are way too young to be burdened by something you had no control over. As far as your father goes, we are all human, and we ALL make mistakes. If he had just one affair, and he recognized it as a mistake and accepts responsibility for how his actions affected his family, that is forgivable. If he was like my father and ran around with a bunch of different women, THAT is not forgivable in my eyes. A mistake happens ONE time, if it happens more than once, it's a pattern. Please honey, go get yourself some medication, counseling, or both. Don't let this destroy your life. Wishing you the best, Fox

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