Can you help me? Is it relationship OCD?
This is the first time I've ever looked at boards or read the threads.
I hope someone can help me understand relationship OCD.
I was going to a therapist for 4 months now to try to help. She sits there while I talk and does nothing to help me. She told me to buy a workbook, which I did. She still doesn't help. Just sits there and looks uncomfortable and awkward. I've decided to try to find a new person.
On my last visit she told me to look into Relationship OCD.
In my life, I've dated a lot and had several boyfriends.
Sadly all the relationships end because of my bad habits. I'm hoping someone can relate.
The first month of a new relationship is amazing, everything is wonderful.
Then I start searching for problems and bring it up to my partner. I might say their Ex wife is interfering in our relationship or things are getting boring, or they may not be romantic enough. I also start to wonder if we are "THE ONE" for one-another. I also fear wasting time with the wrong person.
I start digging for issues. I also start Googling or looking up their exs on Facebook. I HAVE NO idea why.
Most people with OCD would call this "CHECKING" I guess?
My nitpicking can fluctuate from week to week. I always look for issues.
I also will start to find the person repulsive or unattractive. I start to notice physical or emotional things I don't like about them. I feel like these thoughts run and run through my head during random times. I will constantly think about negative things they Do,say, look,act-- Anything.
I haven't had a long term relationship in years. I continue to have short ones.
I had a 3 year relationship once and that person cheated on me. I also remembering nit picking that person.
For some reason he "tolerated it" for some time.
I'm not sure what to do, because I want to get married one day. Being in a relationship makes me happy. I think I make a great girlfriend and hopefully one day..wife..mother.
However, I constantly battle this struggle of picking out flaws or creating drama.
I almost wonder if my brain becomes bored or needs something to keep busy. I hope someone can relate out there and help.