Originally Posted by Lillymz
its not something that I am imagining though there are actual faults that the thing.
everyone has "faults" but it's your perception of these that is unhealthy, as you said, you don't feel you can be with anyone because you wouldn't be accepted, but if we all had to be some perfect version of ourselves, no one would ever have relationships or get married because perfection is an unrealistic and unattainable goal. What this comes down to is how you see yourself and how you judge yourself as not measuring up and I think you need to see a therapist to learn to like yourself and accept yourself as you are. You have an unrealistic and skewed view of how you "need" to be. When you like yourself, you don't "need" to be anything but who you are.