My moma passed away April 15, 2002 after spending her last five days of her life with me. My sister and I took her out of a facility from being starved to her death. She entered this facilty to recover from a bladder infection at local hospital to gain her strength by rehabilative measures and you would expect that they would feed her and give her a fast remedy to why she was not eating. Moma entered march 21, 2002, by April 2, 2002 they yelled that her civil rights were being violated. She entered having her primary physician in her life, but they deemed him wreckless for her and took a higher directive and demanded him to be released and their residential doctor over her life. Then from April 2, 2002 to April 9, 2002 this residential doctor never met my moma (found out on the 9th of April) to help her one bit. When we were told this new directive was in play, they had told us that their new med's would help her greatly to eat and gain weight. Then on April 9, 2002 I called this residential doctor and asked him what to do at this point for moma, knowing he never met her at all. He proceeded to have me fill him in on who she was, her condition and what are my concerns. I was so shaken at this point that it was very hard to continue my interview with him, but for the sake of my investigation I maintained and concluded my call by him telling me a story about nasal feeding and it turned out bad to say the least. The womn he spoke of went into a coma after tube feeding. I asked him when does he think it should happen for my moma. He told me he would do nothing for her without Power Of Attorney. I was still shaken by all he told me and that so far she had loss over 20 pounds and they never moved on her part to save her sooner. By this time her life is so compromised that it was way to late to keep her alive. So, on April 10, 2002 a few of us family members went in and just took her out, but not without so much pain and crap to get us to leave her there to die. That was unbelieveable for them to say that she wanted to stay to get stronger. Oh my God!!!!
Have you thought about hiring an attorney and suing for negligence? By suing you could draw attention to waht happened to your mother and possibly stop this from happening to other people's loved ones.
I'm so sorry for what happened to your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Thank You for you reply and right now I have asked our local Ombudsman to do the investigation with the Adult Seniors Protective Services and with the facility involved. This phase is called the Formal Complaint and I also paid for her autopsy, so we know for sure what she died of and maybe the path of death can be of value in this. We know she had Cardiovascular (heart) problems and she was blessed to live this long (80 yrs.) She ruptured the artery in her stomach and bled some and then died very fast, thank God!!!!
But, was not eating, being starved, and no drink to substain her life longer, plus having the very huge bedsore, all elements in her dying at this time. This has to be litigated for sure. I do have an attorney that will take this on for the family. We have to wait for the full report from the autopsy man and the investigator first.
For now just writing my story is my way to get it out and get people's attention and to love their parents in these places that do not care to feed and give fluids. Moma entered to just recover from a bladder infection and excercise was to be involved. Then to be home in 2 weeks no matter what. Besides, when she was to die, she wanted to die at home. So, as a family we had all our wits about us to watch over her medical decisions as she requested of us when she moved to Salem, Or. This happens everyday to our senior community in nursing home facilities. We had no time to research any place out before she had to go there. After she died a friend of mine told me to go to compare nursing homes facilities website and I found this place on there with 9 deficiencies aganist them. This info is on the Medicare page that pours dollars into these places, knowing full well what goes on to the elderly. Moma was to be evaluated why she was not eating. On top of that they never fed her, or to assist her to eat when she did eat only the sweets.
She had a swolling problem, but being true, they should have nasal fed her to substain her in time to save her weight loss before she crossed over to death. This looks very simple does it not? But they waited until day 12 to scream out to us that she needed PILLS to help her eat. Pills were already a problem, large food was a problem, so figure this out. Then as it went into the death phase for her, they are just making her comfortable to pass on. We had to see this crap designed out by people who could care less how it all went down for moma.
Then, when we stole her out of there, they told us she did not want to go home with us, but wanted to stay there to get stronger!!!!! Yea, right, death is at the door and they say the word STRONGER to our face! That about gagged me and told them to get out of our face and we are leaving. I told them that they would be investigated and we left.
Hi Joan, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Death is a terrible thing to go through, especially when it is someone so dear and close to our hearts. nicola pretty much said what I was going to, so I will give you a little something that a friend of mine gave me, and has helped me through quite a few passings, I hope it will give you even a little sunshine in your life at this time. "When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying." From the love that you and your family have expressed for yur mom, I would say this is how she lived her life, and lived a full one. Just remember the good times, and the love shared by her and your family, and be thankful for that gift. If at all posible put a smile on, we all know she is in a better place whithout the pains of life, and health. Be thankful for that also. I hope this message was able to put a little bit of a smile on your face. My prayers, thoughts and love extend to and for you and your family, God bless and may he be with all of you in this time of need.
Thank you ever so much for your reply. The day before she passed, her two sisters were coming up to see her at my home, but earlier in that morning she told me she was looking for a laugh. So, as it turned out, after her sisters got here, she had 2 hours of laughs and picturing sharing. That will always stay with me, even in the process of death right before my eyes, while I am so sad, she got happy. That told me exactly what you have told me. Wow, what a confirmation!!!!!!!!!!! God Bless you for caring enough to post.
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