What to do about 7th grade bully - Open to All Other Health Topics Message Board

LuvinLiftin · 02-04-2003, 07:20 AM

Hi everyone,

I just found out that my 12 year old sister is being bullied at school. She wants to drop out. She's in 7th grade. I don't know if this was a one time occurence or ongoing because I haven't talked to my mom about it yet. My grandmother just told me briefly last night.

I guess some girl basically cornered her into a class room and had her friends block the door, and called my sister a lesbian and spit in her face!! And she told her if she told any of her friends or teachers, that she would spit in her face everyday.

I know she obviously has to tell someone, I mean, if she does, the girl obviously has to stop or she's going to get suspended and whatever else. But I know my sister doesn't want my mom to tell anyone. I'm ready to go to the school to beat up some lil 12 year old punk! (i'm 23 btw) But I know I can't.

To make matters worse, my sister is extremely sensitive, and dealing with self esteem issues as it is. Can I please get some advice on how to explain to her that she needs to tell someone at school who can confront the girl, and that if she just lets it go on, it's not going to stop.

Maedae · 02-04-2003, 11:01 AM

If I were in your shoes being the older sister I would personally go see the school principal with your sister.
The school is responsible for her while she is there and when things like this happen it really should be taken under control before it gets out of hand. As a student of that school, your sister has a right to a safe education. At this time although she may be scared to speak up but she really needs too. There are laws that protect her as a student and if the school fails to protect her rights, they become responsible for all actions against her including harrasment. Tell her to always remember its not tattletelling it Defending Your Rights

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LuvinLiftin · 02-04-2003, 11:16 AM

The girl is 15 btw, I just found out! 3 years older than my sister (and in the same grade). I'm going to pick her up from school today, I guess she's been running home

Pinkroses · 02-04-2003, 11:30 AM

I agree with Maedae
I feel so bad for your sister. Kids can be very cruel.
I was in her shoes once. The kids that were mean to me followed me up through highschool. Its heartbreaking. Please, please talk to the school on her behalf. She is being physically and mentally abused and it will take its toll.

friendlione · 02-04-2003, 12:47 PM

LuvinLiftin

You should not take on the role of mother.
Your grandmother should have told your mother first, not you.
Please talk to your mother, first.

THEN if your mother does nothing, go speak to the school principal about this.

Your mom is first responsible to protect your sister.
Your sister may be frightened of this coming out, but being fearful keeps her a victim. Don't help her stay a victim. Teach her by example that bad behaviour needs brought into the open and confronted.

You can help by bringing this out onto the open, first to your mother, then to the principal of the school, if necessary.

I hope that you will let us know what happens!