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Mickey864 · 09-25-2003, 11:51 PM

I think my boyfriend cheated on me with another woman.Tuesday my boyfriend called me from his job and said he was stopping over this girl house named Maynette, I asked my boyfriend why, he tells me she called him and said she wanted him to come over because her child was sick and the child is asking for him. keep in mind this is not his child. Any how I asked him not to go over there so late because I felt uncomfortable with him assocating with her since she told him she has feelings for him. He promised me he will not go over there and will come straight home. The time has passed and I didn't see no sign of him home. I got suspicious and called her residence around 6:30 am and she claimed she didn't see him and he wasn't over. So i didn't press the issue, 7:30am I recieved a called from him in the same area and he told me I just came over her house and she informed him I called. I think something is going on and now I am very upset and refuse to speak to him. I made him return his keys and asked him to pack his things. He did so and left I cried for hours. Finally at 1:00 am Thursday he calls me and suggested we talk. Should I speak to him or cut him off I am uncertain about our future. We were together for 4Years. Tell me what should I do. Thanks

beanies31 · 09-26-2003, 12:01 AM

Hi Mickey,

You have been together for 4 years and I think he at least deserves a chance to explain himself. I don't think it was right that he went over there when you expressed to him that you were uncomfortable with him being there. But I would at least hear what he has to say and then go from there.

kooky · 09-26-2003, 12:24 AM

honey!!!!!!
you need a hug! look bunny, i kno its hard to trust men. (the evolutionary gene is a bit behind on the male side of this species) there are a lot of reasons to distrust him and it does sound suspiscious, but why would he tell you in the first place that he was there? listen to him... if you still dont believe him then at least you listened to what he had to say. you guys have been together for a long time. the issue here might not be him cheating but you guy's trust for each other. good luck honey... let me know how it goes.

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Want 2 B Well · 09-26-2003, 11:33 AM

{{{HUGS}}} for you first. He doesn't have to move back in to go talk to him. I think you are due for a break from him. Give yourself time, at least a couple of months, to think things over before you make a decision.
Either way you did the right thing most likely. Usually your first reaction is the correct one when it comes to a cheating partner. I am sure if you think about it you will find that there are other "signs" you have been overlooking.
Sorry you have to deal with this.

Mickey864 · 09-27-2003, 12:25 AM

Thanks for you advice, I did speak to him and he told me he loves me and for me to stop being paranoid and suspicious as I am. He says I am an Intelligent woman and he always thinks about me when I am not around but I still have doubts about him and the young lady. He also scared me when he expressed that he wants me to have a child with him.... That blew my mind. I will try to trust him but it will not be easy.